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Offline blueroseTopic starter

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Discussion Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« on: February 10, 2018, 04:32:09 AM »
        When i started this thread i felt like i was alone on here. There was always talk about clingers and those who never left. I want to thank all of you with vanishers and low contact for joining in on this discussion and for letting see that i wasnt alone.   Thank you.
« Last Edit: February 12, 2018, 08:10:54 AM by OldPilot »

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2018, 04:39:42 AM »
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9644.msg635349#msg635349
Old thread

Thanks for starting a new thread bluerose.
Attaching to your new thread x
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Married 20yrs
Together 29yr
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Currently NC instigated by him as ow has balls in a vice!

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2018, 04:45:13 AM »
   Thank you RP. I still dont know how to do that. Lol!

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #3 on: February 10, 2018, 08:19:59 AM »
Thank you bluerose for keeping our vanisher/low contact club going.  :)

For me, it's been very quiet in vanisher land, I haven't heard a peep since the week before Christmas when he wanted our son's girlfriend's last name for a gift.

You would think since she attended his wedding, my son and his gf have together for over two years and they now share an apartment, that the Leaver would know her full name.  ::)

Anyways, this is hands-down my favorite thread.

I wonder why no one has made a clinger or a wallower thread yet.
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #4 on: February 10, 2018, 08:28:06 AM »
Thanks BR, for getting us started on the next installment of "vanishers/hiders are us"! 

I've heard nothing from mine since December 13th when my security system caught him in the back yard and I sent a text letting him know he'd been seen where he didn't have permission to be. 

But of course, I still have lots of his "stuff" on the property, as well as the giant pole building that he insists he's going to dismantle and take with him.  That means he's going to have to run the risk of seeing me to get all this done.   ;)

My MLer stays pretty much on the down low around this tiny town.  His new wife, however, is out and about flaunting her new surname.   ::)
After all, tomorrow is another day.

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #5 on: February 10, 2018, 08:35:34 AM »

I've heard nothing from mine since December 13th when my security system caught him in the back yard and I sent a text letting him know he'd been seen where he didn't have permission to be. 


OMG, SB, believe me, I know this MLC crap is painful but I can't but laugh at your MLCer and his stupid Mrs.

I picture him creeping in your backyard like a burglar from the old Batman TV show and then running once the lights and alarms go off.   ;D ;D ;D
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #6 on: February 10, 2018, 08:40:54 AM »

I picture him creeping in your backyard like a burglar from the old Batman TV show and then running once the lights and alarms go off.   ;D ;D ;D


I just busted out with a huge belly laugh!  Thanks for that!  I've done way too much crying over all this MLC stuff.  It's always good to have a well deserved laugh when the MLer and the Mrs. provide the material.   ;D 
After all, tomorrow is another day.

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #7 on: February 10, 2018, 08:57:13 AM »
     Your both very welcome. I have not seen or heard from the coward since our last court appearance for his divorce. I think that was in August of last year. We did have the parenting time assessments and i did catch a glimpse of him walking into the building for that in either october or november.  The court did receive the counselor summary of that in December and i think he has to file to get a court date to see if he can start having d13 on the weekends. My lawyer told me about 2 weeks ago that we have no court dates coming up and i have heard nothing. Thst scares me. I feel like im just sitting here waiting to be pounced on. Hopefully, he just maybe decided to drop the whole thing but i doubt it. So, i guess we will see.

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #8 on: February 10, 2018, 09:27:35 AM »
My favourite thread as well.

I have not heard from my vanisher since he threw a temper tantrum in early Janaury bc i wouldn't veer from the SA and give him 30 k for his new shiny life.

Whatever. His loss
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BD1 - August 26, 2016 - ILYBINILWY
BD 2 - August 28, 2016 - OW discovered EA - Kicked him out
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Divorce final February 12 2018

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8823.0

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9005.0

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9120.0

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9279.0

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9649.msg635725#msg635725

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 14
« Reply #9 on: February 10, 2018, 10:14:28 AM »
Not heard since August and he doesn’t reply to anything and only odd text to kids but now no tel no apparently.

I caught a glimpse of him in the dark when he tried to sneak xmas presents in the porch at gone midnight xmas morn but as I had changed the locks he had tantrum and put them through the letter box. Ow was in waiting car with engine running and by time I got to front door he must of run across road and sped off!! H left  presents on porch door handle. Sneak them in like Santa but no suit! Xx
« Last Edit: February 10, 2018, 11:14:03 AM by Rising Phoenix »
Me 50
H50
Married 20yrs
Together 29yr
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Currently NC instigated by him as ow has balls in a vice!


 

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