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Offline ChrissYAH

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My Story Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #50 on: November 30, 2017, 05:06:57 AM »
SH7 yes my xh who married the ow won't have anything to do with my 2 oldest because they won't accept what he's done, they know he's a nut job acts totally like a 15yr old, he occasionally speaks to my youngest who's 15 only because she's still a little young to fully get what he's done, he refuses to pay for her school fees,actually he refuses to pay for anything, he's angry that I have him paying child support, he recently emailed the school and told them he won't be paying next yrs fees, she's now ignoring him, all he cares about is his own happiness and the hag he married.  Expect anything and everything from these selfish child/men.

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #51 on: November 30, 2017, 05:16:26 AM »
I have and like everyone else i try to explain it to she thinks it's crap and he's just a jerk.

Talked with my lawyer today.  My attorney told H attorney that's it's not ok that OW is doing her laundry at H house-its our rent house- and H attorney said to mine, " H has moved on and is a new relationship,  you guys need to get over it".
Wow, really??? We are still legally married!!!!

Sometimes lawyers will try to throw you off with emotional bull$h!te, so, I believe, to drag this on and make more money.

For me, this was the hardest part, try to stay focused to what really matters.  Separate the divorce from your emotions.  You want this divorce to go quickly and quietly as soon as possible.  Honestly, who cares where she does laundry?  What you focus on gets bigger, focusing on the details of what she is and is not doing is just a distraction for why you are there.  Why pay the lawyers to talk about laundry? 

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #52 on: November 30, 2017, 05:24:20 AM »
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Why pay the lawyers to talk about laundry?

Nah said it all right here...

UNLESS YOU are paying the utility bills or whatnot (i. e.  it is costing you money), then letting the slimeballs write letters about it IS costing you money.... In the grand scheme of things, the sooner the Consequences bus runs over STBX and OW, the better...

Is it worth the time and trouble and cost to quibble about the fact that she's doing Laundry there?
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #53 on: November 30, 2017, 05:27:42 AM »
D17 is obviously still too young to understand, be patient with her!

Don't try to stop the laundry legally.  H is like a toddler the more you tell him NO the more he will do!  Not worth your effort or your money!

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #54 on: November 30, 2017, 05:37:01 AM »
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She won't talk to him, she won't return his texts.

SS, my S16 does the same exact thing with his Dad. He refuses to talk to him and if he drops by he will make sure he is at a friend's house or he goes to the basketballl court. I asked him if he wanted to talk about things and his reply was "He left us for a drug wh*r^ and drugs, so I have nothing to say to him." I don't push but I told him I was there if he wanted to talk. Hang in there SS. Keep your head up, you are doing great!
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #55 on: November 30, 2017, 05:49:45 PM »
We didn't spend any money on this exchange of information. It was just something my lawyer said to his in passing one another at the court house.
H is in a huge rush to get this divorce over.  I found out he has had several affairs over the past several years.  And I have not worked since we married 20 years ago.  So my lawyer is going to invite all his girlfriend's to the divorice called subpoenas.  I have 4 children, that H and I agreed that homeschooling was the choice we felt was best and I didn't spend 20 years of my life to give up everything he and I built together to give it to H and that tramp.   But my children deserve to finish what was started with them and considering H has literally lost his mind and acting like a 15 year old punk.
H baby sits OW woman's kids, which is weird but he does it when he has my kids.  Her kids are 2 and 5 years old.   They call H daddy, in front of my kids.  It's messed up on so many levels.
I'm going to do what I have to do to protect my kids.
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #56 on: December 03, 2017, 04:48:43 PM »
H drops off S8 and D11 tonight.  D11 said H told her everyone thinks he looks 36 and that OW thinks that too and D11 need a to just get used to OW because she's not going anywhere.  H is going to be 49 in a couple months and doesn't look 36. 
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #57 on: December 03, 2017, 04:52:38 PM »
H drops off S8 and D11 tonight.  D11 said H told her everyone thinks he looks 36 and that OW thinks that too and D11 need a to just get used to OW because she's not going anywhere.  H is going to be 49 in a couple months and doesn't look 36.

Lol, thats how old the x is, not sure how old the hag is my daughter tells me she looks like a much older aunt,hahaa anyway he dyes his hair, shaves his body, works out at the gym hangs around with young people the only thing missing is his red corvette and a brain.

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #58 on: December 03, 2017, 08:02:33 PM »
H drops off S8 and D11 tonight.  D11 said H told her everyone thinks he looks 36 and that OW thinks that too and D11 need a to just get used to OW because she's not going anywhere.  H is going to be 49 in a couple months and doesn't look 36.

Oh yes, very telling.  Mine too often talked about how he looked so young.  In his Sugar Daddy website ad he boasted how he looked "much younger" than his age of 50.

Just a few months ago he confessed to me that when he looks in the mirror all he sees is an old man.

Why tell his young daughter any of this unless he is obsessed with convincing himself?

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #59 on: December 04, 2017, 07:20:38 AM »
OH so typical!!   My H "didn't look his age" either and his NEW job with his new young boss told him everyday how really important it was to look younger than his age!!  Then of course OW2 was 20 years younger and that is so important to a 50 year old MLCer!!

My H is very attractive and very personable and very outgoing, everybody loves him and loves being around him!  Always a good time!! It has always been that way!
So the thing to do is leave your wife and family and spread joy to everyone right??   

The OW or OM strokes the ego of the MLCer, fuels the flame I guess!
Eventually that stops and the MLCer begins to see clearly!!  It takes a very long time!

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