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Offline Seeshell7Topic starter

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My Story Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #60 on: December 04, 2017, 10:00:43 AM »
Well every day he does more and more That is just so ridiculous.  He is constantly telling D11 how happy OW makes him and how they are so in love.  This OW is a horrible human being who put a meam up on social media saying that she wouldn't have to swear so much if her kids didn't make her lose her sh!t constantly,  and sometimes kids are d!cks.  What??? That's how she feels about her own children that are 2 and 5 years old, how is going to feel about my kids who hate her.  Ugh
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #61 on: December 04, 2017, 12:43:01 PM »
Oh geez, maybe he should step it up and talk about their sex life.  :P

Again, why try so hard unless he's full of sh!t?

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #62 on: December 04, 2017, 01:15:49 PM »
Yeah I agree with Nah. When one is truly happy, they don’t need to tell anyone. They just are.
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #63 on: December 04, 2017, 03:48:56 PM »
 I agree with Nah and Kit. If it was all sunshine and rainbows then you wouldn't be trying to convince everybody. I think it has more to do with them trying to convince their self than anything. Hang in there you are doing good!
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

You'll search for me inside of everyone you're with and I won't be found." R.H. Sin.

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S27,S21, S16
Married 12/10/1994
23 years of marriage
BD- June 22, 2017 Moved in with OW-June 24th, 2017
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Offline Seeshell7Topic starter

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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #64 on: December 04, 2017, 04:07:16 PM »
I guess that's what everyone keeps telling me. This OW puts on social media how much she loves my H and how much he loves her.  Who is she trying to convince. I don't get it because I'm an 80s girl who didn't grow up putting every detail of my life on social media but OW is 20 years younger and that's how they communicate.
Still it sucks
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #65 on: December 04, 2017, 04:11:36 PM »
Yes, it does suck SS. Just remember looks are deceiving and social media posts are sometimes nothing more than smoke screens. Sounds like OW is trying to convince her self more than anything.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

You'll search for me inside of everyone you're with and I won't be found." R.H. Sin.

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Married 12/10/1994
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BD- June 22, 2017 Moved in with OW-June 24th, 2017
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #66 on: December 04, 2017, 07:36:22 PM »
Sometimes I find myself thinking of how did this happen?
We had a beautiful family, we were a family of 6 with our 2 boys and 2 girls, and H lost his damn mind and walked away from it all for a nasty horrible person who is just about 100% everything he has always hated.   Yet now he is so in love with her and she is his soulmate.......really??
How did we get Here?  Is this honestly what he wants with the rest of his life??  And this tramp thinks she's going to live my life. Puke
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #67 on: December 05, 2017, 03:46:50 PM »
Love...soulmate...nope. Not buying it. More like escape and avoid. And this OW is just allowing herself to be used. She will never live your life bc you are still here. Thinking about them and their OW is so destructive—trust me I know bc I do it alllllllll the time! All it does is drive us mad bc we think they are normal healthy people. But they aren’t. And nothing we did made them do this. I always go back to the one mantra when I start monkey braining about OW....”I am the prize.” We all are Shell. Someday they will get it. But will it be too late? Perhaps.
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #68 on: December 05, 2017, 05:40:13 PM »
Monkey braining, is that constantly thinking about H and OW and their wonderful beautiful life together?
Because if so, I'm guilty of that, ugh.
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Re: Just when I think things are getting better....
« Reply #69 on: December 06, 2017, 09:18:17 AM »
Kit and SS, I must confess that I am guilty of it too. I know that looks are deceiving but sometimes it seems like they are living a beautiful life, just as you stated SS. Even though we know they aren't it still crosses our minds.
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Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

You'll search for me inside of everyone you're with and I won't be found." R.H. Sin.

M-48
H-46
S27,S21, S16
Married 12/10/1994
23 years of marriage
BD- June 22, 2017 Moved in with OW-June 24th, 2017
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