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Offline KeepItTogetherTopic starter

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My Story Eye On The Prize
« on: March 20, 2018, 08:09:54 PM »
Well I have to admit I had a whole different direction I wanted to start out with. But, well, I have an MLCer story. And it's kinda funny so I wanted to share with my HS peeps!

Tonight H had a game for his varsity lacrosse team. He took S11 with him. They got home about a quarter to 8 tonight and I was sitting in the living room enjoying a glass of wine b/c it's Tuesday.   ;D H is telling me all about the game--Lacrosse...yada...score was...yada...we won....yada.   I was nodding and smiling. Did I mention there was wine? Anywho, I noticed his team shirt was one of those Nike Dri-Fit form fitting ones. It was really cute. So I mentioned I liked it. Once.  OK, wait for it, he literally took it off then and there and gave it to me.   Who does that?  Then came over to give me a hug and kiss. Mind you I am sitting on the couch and never got up. Still sitting here shaking my  head.

Anyway, the title to this thread is "Eye on The Prize" and that is supposed to be all about me re-focusing on my prize, S11.  B/c for too long my focus has been on H. And though I know I shouldn't, I just cannot bring myself to turn away from the carnage. But I know I need to. Now.

Thanks everyone for following along. I really do appreciate you all so much.

Link to previous thread:  http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9761.0;all
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #1 on: March 20, 2018, 08:21:38 PM »
Welcome to your new thread KIT!  Glad you have wine AND a cute new shirt.  If your H is like mine though, that shirt is going to make up for everything he has ever done to you.
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2018, 08:30:51 PM »
Hi KIT, following along!  I celebrated Tuesday with a nice rum drink myself lol.  Next time, you should tell h you like his car, see if he leaves that with you :o
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #3 on: March 20, 2018, 10:42:40 PM »
It is an old Bedouin tradition, to be fair....does he have a nice camel?  ;D
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #4 on: March 21, 2018, 02:24:10 AM »
It is an old Bedouin tradition, to be fair....does he have a nice camel?  ;D

Oh mist! (German word for $#!t) I just spit my tea all over the Control Console....

Is "camel" the new euphemism for ... never mind.....

And wasn't it wine that got you into trouble before?  ;D  IIRC - There was discussion about a text ban when wine was involved... Of course, if he came over, there was no texting....
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #5 on: March 21, 2018, 03:13:08 AM »
Lol,  I am not sure if that is an mlc thing or just a man thing. They seem to find it attractive when we wear their clothes.  I had that happen to me recently by this guy I am seeing.  He seemed to think that he should leave his pyjama pants here for me to wear lol. I have to roll my own down about five times for them to fit,  probably have to roll his ten times lol

Silly silly men!

Keep your eye on the prize,  kit :)
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #6 on: March 21, 2018, 06:56:18 AM »
It is an old Bedouin tradition, to be fair....does he have a nice camel?  ;D

Omg Treasur—that is freaking hysterical!!  And his camel seems to have a new ding, scratch or semi-major damage tonitbon a weekly basis. You know, like a 17 year old.  (UM—love that your mind went right to the gutter. Ok so did mine)

Right UM. There was no texting. And like I said, I was speechless while the captain of the team gave me his shirt. Wonder if he’ll ask me to prom.

NoEx, Tyks, Bipolared—thank you for following along. I always love reading your thoughtful responses.

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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #7 on: March 21, 2018, 07:09:45 AM »
KIT,
I'm here!
Following along.  Great subject line! 
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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #8 on: March 21, 2018, 07:20:56 AM »

Omg Treasur—that is freaking hysterical!!  And his camel seems to have a new ding, scratch or semi-major damage to it on a weekly basis. You know, like a 17 year old.  (UM—love that your mind went right to the gutter. Ok so did mine)

Right UM. There was no texting. And like I said, I was speechless while the captain of the team gave me his shirt. Wonder if he’ll ask me to prom.

Who knows... were you waving your Pom Poms and shouting "Hoo Rah Ree! Kick 'em in the knee!  Hoo Rah Ras! Kick 'em in the ... OTHER KNEE!" all the while batting your eyelashes at him?

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Re: Eye On The Prize
« Reply #9 on: March 21, 2018, 07:29:53 AM »
What a great morning Laugh I just had!   Following along and enjoying the comedy.  Can never ever laugh too much!
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