[OldPilot]

To all,

The previous thread had grown to over 150 posts in RECORD time.

PLEASE NOTE
Please  post on your own thread first and wait for responses, if no one responds then you should use the ask a mentor thread.

Please use this thread if you need immediate attention & if possible include a link to your story page. I.E. EMERGENCIES!


Discuss away!


previous threads:
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3763.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3658.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3535.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=2738.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=2220.0

[Slow Fade]

Can someone pop over and give me some quick advice? I just provoked Monster and I'm shaking.......

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3769.0

[Stillstanding71]

Question!

Could it ever happen that, when in a new relationship, our Mlcer would come to some insight? Or is it the escape they are looking for and self reflection just doesnt happen while infatuation is at play?

Answered on your thread: 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3800.msg230359#msg230359

[Disneyme]

I want to know what you you tell a 9 and 12 year old about being taken to the OW house or having "family" get togethers with OW when they know daddy is not divorced. And do you encourage them to speak up? My H does not think this is wrong, and as long as the kids are smiling with him, he does not see any repercussions. He has been enabled for 2 years by family and friends and now the kids are in a way doing the same. I am afraid they will one day have a MLC from holding this in now.

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3753.0;all

[Songanddance]

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3791.0;all
As my mentor is quiet (possible reconnection going on) would a mentor please just check out my last post... I'm at my wits end - my H is now proving to have no conscience whatsoever and going dark hasn't always helped. He really is cake eating by staying at home but seeing OW every night and I have had enough!

[Slow Fade]

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3769.0

Just vomited my soul on my thread. Can I get some feedback? Sorry to bother.....thanks!

[Disneyme]

Does anyone know a way to speak to H. He refuses to pay this joint credit card that is due Friday. In mediation debt was split and this is the only thing for him to pay. He can ruin my credit with this (his credit already ruined). If I ask about it, he says don't talk to me unless it's about the kids. I know he doesn't have the money, because he paid his cards that were already  a month behind. It is catching up on him, but he magically gets out of everything. It's like those people who claim bankrupsy over and over and yet buy bigger and bigger homes, nicer cars, etc.  And you think how the hell does this work out for them.
It's been a stablished that I don't speak right to him so I don't know how to get it across that he has to pay it. Also to do his taxes.

[Ready2Transform]

Do you have legal representation?  Or can you contact the mediator?  Honestly, I don't think there's anything you can do until he doesn't pay it, and from what you've said, that will probably happen.  Are you going to be prepared to cover it if he doesn't?  You can then seek reimbursement, as he will be in contempt of the agreement.  Unfortunately, you can't force him to do the right thing, but you can prepare to take care of yourself if he doesn't.  If the taxes won't affect you personally, leave it alone.  He will have to make his own mistakes.  If they do affect you, that is something you may have to take up legally.  Unfortunately, MLCers just can't be counted on.

[ForeverHopefulOne]

DM, if you are looking to your H to protect your credit, it probably won't happen.  He is looking out for only himself, and from what you said, he is just barely doing that, so why would he do anything to help you?  If what you say is true, don't stress over trying to get money out of him - protect yourself anyway you can without his involvement.  Contact the credit card company and work out a payment plan.

You can not depend on an MLCer to get anything done, even if there is a court order

I'm sorry you're going through this

[LoveMeMyself]

I have a question..........or maybe just an issue to air.  My exH just sent me an email in reference to our vacation property.  He sent me an agreement from a real estate agent and he asked me to look at it and then let him know what I think about selling it. I am, to say the least, very upset and mad about this.  He didn't consult me or even have the consideration to discuss it with me.......he just contacts this agent and sends me their agreement.  Of course, he can't put it on the market without my signature and agreeing to it.  I have decided to ignor it for the time being.  I am just so upset and angry right now!!  Any thoughts as to what I should do?