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My Story A Wrinkle in Time
« on: March 01, 2018, 07:51:14 AM »
Starting my new thread. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9394.150
The meaning of the title I chose for my thread:  The image of the wrinkle is to explain the idea of a tesseract. Making a connection between two faraway things in a way that bypasses the distance between them.  It grapples with the knowledge that there are some things we just don't understand.  It is also a triumph of love.  Good over evil.  Light over dark.
Welcome to my new thread!
“In the end, you’ve got to be your own hero because everyone’s busy trying to save themselves.”

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #1 on: March 01, 2018, 08:21:34 AM »
Love your thread title, hero...following along (and don't you have to appreciate the awesomeness of a forum that can include 'tesseract' and 'bat snot bonkers' in its' posts  ;D )
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H filed Jan 17. Divorced April 18

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #2 on: March 01, 2018, 08:50:36 AM »
I absolutely love the title of your new thread!!! :)....following along...
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H - 55
Adult D- 35 ( our only child)
Married 37 yrs. married 33 yrs at time of BD
date of BD July 2015
OW- YES, 36 yr old Peruvian with a 67yr old son
H- moved out of our home in Oct 2015 & moved in with OW
H- says doesnt want divorce, wants long term separation. doesnt know what the future holds.
 H- Jan. 2017 he visits a fertility clinic.
 H - stopped seeing me in 2017.except for 3 emergency situations
 H- has introduced OW to his family and visits them often with OW.
 H- has introduced OW to a few of our friends.
 H- told me that OW does want him to divorce me and they have talked about getting married.
 Entering 2018. H has not filed for divorce.
He is still living with OW
 H & OW moved into a huge single family home in May 2018
 If you're going through Hell, keep going

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #3 on: March 01, 2018, 10:16:29 AM »
Love it Hero! My S is reading this book in his class right now.
Good over evil. Light over dark. Love everything about this. Still here with you my friend.
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #4 on: March 01, 2018, 10:27:50 AM »
Coming along Hero. 
Married 1998
MLC H 48
LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #5 on: March 01, 2018, 10:36:18 AM »
Thank you all for following me my LBS friends!
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #6 on: March 01, 2018, 11:48:22 AM »
I'm here too, Hero!
Married 1989, together since 1984 
BD May 2014,
D23, D20, S13
OW Physical Affair. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 50 last year.

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #7 on: March 01, 2018, 11:56:48 AM »
Joining in.  Bring in the light.
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #8 on: March 01, 2018, 12:27:20 PM »
Hi Milly and Nah,
Good to have you along! :D
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #9 on: March 01, 2018, 06:43:08 PM »
Hero,

I'm here too!  Yes, your new thread has a great title.  I would expect no less from you, my friend!  Hiking the Grand Canyon sounds AMAZING!  Wish I could get away in October, I'd invite myself along :)
Married 10 1/2 years, together 17.  BD 9/2016, 2nd BD 10/16.  H moved out 10/16.  2 AS's from my first M.  Me 55, H 49.  OW 23.

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #10 on: March 01, 2018, 08:00:25 PM »
Hi no-ex,  
Wish u could make it work to come along on the hike.
Thanks for following along.
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #11 on: March 01, 2018, 08:51:57 PM »
Wishing you find a good iron for your journey!!!!🤗
I care🤗
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W 58
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #12 on: March 01, 2018, 09:24:40 PM »
Attaching!
M-39
H-42
S-17
D-15
S-12
Friends for 7 years before dating
Married for 14 years
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniversary
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged to her 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Engagement off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Joined POF within the first month back


Link to my journey: 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9907.0#new

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #13 on: March 01, 2018, 10:35:53 PM »
Attaching; love your thread title. <3 (My book club is reading A Wrinkle in Time for our April book.) 
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #14 on: March 01, 2018, 11:12:48 PM »
Whoever thought an elementary school book would become so appropos? Excellent choice.

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #15 on: March 02, 2018, 06:25:06 AM »
So happy to have all of you here!  I've not yet read the book 'A Wrinkle in Time' nor seen the movie (not sure it's out yet), but the significance of the title was too good to not use here. 
Shocked, hopefully my H can find the iron!  ;)


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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #16 on: March 02, 2018, 07:23:04 AM »
Following along too.

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« Reply #17 on: March 03, 2018, 01:53:39 PM »
Following along too..... :)
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #18 on: March 03, 2018, 02:19:01 PM »
Here!
me 54
H 50
S12, S8 & S8
M 1/98

BD 7/16  PA - OW 47, divorced, no children
Separated, 8/16 - I kicked him out

H sleeping on a couch at his business, three blocks from our home.
No legal action possible until immigration issues sorted out.

BD#2 9/17 - OW now employed by H full time

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #19 on: March 07, 2018, 06:42:25 AM »
Once again, not much of an update.  I have had to contact H recently about important rental property and tax stuff. There was no getting around that. 
Other than that, not much else happening.

Nah, you were right.  My posts are boring.   :P
Though, I feel grateful for the peace and stability. 
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #20 on: March 07, 2018, 07:01:32 AM »

Nah, you were right.  My posts are boring.   :P
Though, I feel grateful for the peace and stability.

Haha.... boring but where the rest of us want to be.  What are those words "peace" and "stability" that you speak of???
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #21 on: March 07, 2018, 09:38:06 AM »
Hey nah,
Peace = no drama
Stability = Emotions are more stable.

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #22 on: March 08, 2018, 01:49:28 PM »
Today is my birthday. I'm officially an old hag.....
Got a bday greeting from H via email which was nice since 'personal' contacts don't happen much.
Also got a bday ecard from the IL's as well as my own family/friends.
So far had a nice day. Had lunch with a co-worker and will be getting a facial as a treat for myself and left work early.
 8)
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #23 on: March 08, 2018, 01:57:05 PM »
Happy Bday Hero. And trust me, you are about the furthest thing from a “hag”!! Quite the opposite in fact!
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« Reply #24 on: March 08, 2018, 02:01:30 PM »
Happy Birthday Hero, you sound really good.
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #25 on: March 08, 2018, 02:44:24 PM »
Thanks KIT!  You are too kind....
Thank you Nah.....
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #26 on: March 08, 2018, 03:22:55 PM »
Happy Birthday Hero! Someone who sounds like you can never be an old hag. Not even at 95. You are always going to be fascinating!
Hope you're having a special day even if you had to organize it yourself.
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #27 on: March 08, 2018, 03:57:30 PM »
Thank you Milly!  Some days I feel fascinating, some days i feel like an old hag.   :P  Mostly my achy bones in the morning!
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« Reply #28 on: March 08, 2018, 04:55:27 PM »
Happy Birthday Hero!!!! I hope you have a peaceful and easy day!!! You are a hero and deserve a day of rest and happiness!!!🤗
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #29 on: March 09, 2018, 07:45:49 AM »
Happy belated Birthday Hero!! I am glad you had a nice day were able to treat yourself to a facial!!
Married 1998
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LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #30 on: March 09, 2018, 09:30:03 AM »
Happy belated birthday beautiful lady!!!!
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H - 54
Married 11 years, together 21
Apr 2014: PA discovered, ow 22 yrs younger
Jun 2014: Left home to live w OW
Aug 2014: Back home. "Sorry, made mistakes".
Late 2015: Ow2 (a couple of dates I think). Monster
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Early 2016: Health scare, including major surgery, resulting in fog lifting some more.
Today: H progressing thru mlc positively.Not cooked but has remained home and reconciling
Arguments & disagreements less frequent
Enjoying our time together

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #31 on: March 09, 2018, 10:58:48 AM »
 thank you my friends!
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #32 on: March 15, 2018, 07:15:55 AM »
Again, thank you all for the birthday wishes and for joining my boring thread.  :P
I did have a bit more contact from H recently.  Again, business related (taxes, rental, bills, house etc....).
It seems to be the most contact I've had from him over the last couple of years.
I suspect it won't last.  And, nothing to get excited about.  There was one funny exchange in an email about the US president.  My suspicion on where H was living was confirmed, but still don't know if OW lives there or not.
MIL gave me a recent update on an aging family member on H's side of the family whom I am close to. 
Haven't heard from SS22 in a long time even though I've reached out. 

I've been a little down the last week or so, but have been coping the best I know how.....
I think it is mostly just the lonely feeling that washes over me at times and that I still miss H, and possibly the contacts have triggered me a little. 
But I am doing ok.  Keeping the gratitude and presence.   I continue with my mirror work and IC.
 :)
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« Reply #33 on: March 17, 2018, 10:37:19 AM »
Happy belated birthday, Hero.

I'm sorry that SS22 hasn't responded, and that you are feeling lonely.  I know how that is.  I also agree that the contact can be triggering.  (((HUGS)))
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Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged to her 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Engagement off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Joined POF within the first month back


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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #34 on: March 18, 2018, 09:09:41 AM »
Happy belated birthday Hero.

Yes, only natural to get triggered when there is contact. 

Love the new thread title.  :)
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« Reply #35 on: March 18, 2018, 11:45:55 AM »

I did have a bit more contact from H recently.  Again, business related (taxes, rental, bills, house etc....).
It seems to be the most contact I've had from him over the last couple of years.
I suspect it won't last.  And, nothing to get excited about.  There was one funny exchange in an email about the US president.  My suspicion on where H was living was confirmed, but still don't know if OW lives there or not.
MIL gave me a recent update on an aging family member on H's side of the family whom I am close to. 


Hero.... you are as cool as a cucumber. 

I have been reading this forum daily for almost five years now.  If I could pick one poster who has been a true lighthouse....
it would be you.

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« Reply #36 on: March 18, 2018, 12:10:01 PM »
Happy Belated birthday!! Sorry! Sometimes we get lost in our GAL and we forget to come back and wish Happy bdays! I hope it was a nice one for YOU!
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« Reply #37 on: March 18, 2018, 12:13:31 PM »
Hello my friend,

I'm sorry I'm late in wishing you a happy birthday.   I'm glad you took the time to do something for yourself!
Married 10 1/2 years, together 17.  BD 9/2016, 2nd BD 10/16.  H moved out 10/16.  2 AS's from my first M.  Me 55, H 49.  OW 23.

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #38 on: March 18, 2018, 07:14:16 PM »
FW, LH, no-ex, smiling, thank you lovely ladies.
Wow nah, thank you. I think that was a compliment?
Lol.
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« Reply #39 on: March 18, 2018, 09:24:39 PM »
Yes, Hero,

From what you write, sure it hurts but you focus on yourself and let what ever will be.... be.

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #40 on: March 19, 2018, 09:31:25 AM »
Hero.... I was just thinking of you this morning.

Here's what I see... whether you see it or not, I do, I see it in your writing.

You somehow have achieved acceptance very early on.  Your responses to your husband are the polar opposite of how I handled my husband.  I somehow quickly on here and in real life became the fun, fun party girl.  All I was doing was distracting myself from the pain.
I didn't achieve anything but avoidance. 

I teased you early on for having a "boring" thread.  That was my highest compliment.  No whining, no pushing and pulling, just day to day acceptance.  Don't you see?  I spent almost five years trying to be at that point where you already stand.  Instead I fought like a fire-trucker.

I didn't really want to accept anything.  So when he contact me, I often gave him snotty remarks or I made fun of him, or I ignored him,.... sure I could call it "truth darts"... but I wanted him to feel my pain,.... so I shot him in the nuggets every chance I got.

I was wrong.  I fire trucked up.  All I achieved was tp push him away and delay my own healing.

He vanished.  How did I respond?  I infiltrated his coworkers, his hockey friends, his band friends, his family.... anything I could do to let him know I was still here and in pain b/c of HIM.  Many others on here do the same thing.  We get a little contact and we go crazy... we cry, yell, scream, truth dart them to death.  All understandable but not helpful to the end goal of letting go of the rope.

Sure, I have a ton of stories of The Leaver pulling towards me.  I can only wonder where we would be today if I actually "let it be" like you have done from the beginning.  The Leaver has pulled towards me in the past despite my actions, not b/c of them.

You are doing it, girl.  You are a true lighthouse.

That's why I am attracted to your "boring" thread.  You have it all figured out.  You might not feel like you do, but that's what I see.

Whether or not your husband comes back (but again, I feel like you have the best shot on here) you are still a Hero.
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #41 on: March 19, 2018, 10:09:39 AM »
Oh Nah.
You warm my heart.  Thank you.
I think as anyone going through this here, you were angry.  Don't knock yourself!  So was I.  Maybe the reactions weren't the best response (and I had a few of my own embarrassing and immature reactions) but it is a very traumatic event.   It sounds like we all went through reactionary anger that we wish we could take back. 

I love your compliments, however, to be honest, I really didn't handle it well from the beginning.  I played the victim, sulked a lot and remained stuck in non acceptance for quite some time.  I have/had some wonderful ladies from this forum who were there for me regularly via phone/text - and one or two mentors that without whom I really don't know how I would have made it through this.  Truly.  I read every book I could get my hands on, I listened to hundreds of podcasts, been seeing my IC for the last four years. Until over time I just put things together, listened to what others have been telling me, and realized I have no control over this and decided to just STOP because I wanted peace more than anything - more than even my H returning.  I really just tortured myself daily and finally I was exhausted enough to finally get to acceptance. (aka: rock bottom?) :P  So I didn't figure out anything.  Just went through the emotions.

I teased you early on for having a "boring" thread.  That was my highest compliment.  No whining, no pushing and pulling, just day to day acceptance.  Don't you see?  I spent almost five years trying to be at that point where you already stand.  Instead I fought like a fire-trucker

Believe me!  I want my thread to be boring.  ;) Some of the stories I read here just break my heart.
And, Nah, some of the comments you have made here have stuck with me and helped pull me through and pull me up.  Most especially how we cannot nice them back, or jealous them back - because that is exactly what I tried to do, and of course, got nowhere except delay my own healing as well.  You have no idea how much your comments have helped.  And thank you.

So, I just try to remain grateful that he hasn't just cut and run financially.  He may have cut and run emotionally......and that is his own issue.  I try to remain cordial in response to his contact, while letting go of the rope which btw, is a regular practice.  If I am honest, the rope has been dropped, but -- not quite gone to where I can easily pick it up again.   ::).   Still a work in progress.

Whether or not your husband comes back (but again, I feel like you have the best shot on here) you are still a Hero

Not sure what will happen.  I've written off hope a few times.  But I still believe in it.  ;)
Big hugs, Nah.
 

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« Reply #42 on: March 19, 2018, 10:13:59 AM »
Everything Nah said—ditto! Seriously Hero, you really are a Hero. May not feel like it, but your patience and grace, and acceptance are awe inspiring.

I know you have your sad days too. And who wouldn’t? We are only human. But I often think of “What would Hero do” before sending off a nasty text to my H. And usually, my answer is, don’t. You’ve definitely saved me from many a text war. Maybe it was unwittingly on your part, but your great example is there for all of us to watch. So keep posting the boring—and the sad times too. And thanks!
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« Reply #43 on: March 19, 2018, 12:47:32 PM »
Hero, it's nice to see you getting some recognition and validation at last.

Earlier on there were some who should have known better who didn't show you much compassion and understanding.  I'm glad the tables have turned.

You've always been a Hero and an inspiration to me.  You go girl! Xx
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« Reply #44 on: March 19, 2018, 03:20:58 PM »
KIT, LH,
Thank you!   8)
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« Reply #45 on: March 19, 2018, 04:37:57 PM »
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« Reply #46 on: March 27, 2018, 12:51:42 PM »
Here's another boring update.
I have nothing to update.  lol  :P  (hugs, nah) ;)
I've not heard from H since last contact which was, well..... i don't remember.

Will be visiting H's grandma soon as I hear from MIL that  her health is declining.  Grandma and I are close and it saddens me.  Wish we didn't have to get old!

Heard from MIL last week about them adopting a senior dog.  IL's are both retired so it is great they can do that since they have a nice size yard and big hearts.

I continue with my own mirror work, visiting with family, working and carrying on.  I've been feeling better about the loneliness and learning to live with it as I learn more about me.  I think my IC is feeling pretty good about my progress.  And so am I.   
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« Reply #47 on: March 27, 2018, 02:14:05 PM »
What a lovely update Hero!!

I told my IC that I am alone now but I don't feel lonely anymore. I have learned to really enjoy my own company.

It is so nice that your IL still keep in touch with you.   
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« Reply #48 on: March 27, 2018, 03:01:00 PM »
Yes, I have to agree...I'm alone, but not lonely anymore.
I think I'm fabulous and I enjoy my company lol ;)
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« Reply #49 on: March 27, 2018, 03:23:00 PM »
Wow Hero!  What lovely compliments.  You are awesome.  I agree with Nah - your not chasing him or reacting to his silence is a good thing.  You know I was a yo yo for a long time and took every opportunity to tell him how broken he was.  He left with his paycheck and filed for divorce, so my strategy didn't work.  Keep going girlie - being "boring" is a good thing!
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« Reply #50 on: March 27, 2018, 03:31:51 PM »
DF, Smiling, Shining,
Hi ladies!  Thanks for joining.

Keep that smile, smiling!
DF, yes, we become content with our loneliness, don't we?
Shining, I only want peace. I got tired of the self inflicted mind torture!  I have no strategy with H.  He's going to do what he is going to do.

I'm just happy to have all of you courageous, inspirational women following my boring thread.  :)
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« Reply #51 on: March 27, 2018, 04:22:05 PM »
Your restraint has always amazed me Hero! I do think of you when I’m about to send a text or email to my H. And so I don’t. I’ve really gotten so much better bc of your influence.

Glad your feeling better. I think I need another lunch with Hero to get out of my stupid funk
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« Reply #52 on: March 27, 2018, 05:14:25 PM »
Here's another boring update.
I have nothing to update.  lol  :P  (hugs, nah) ;)
I've not heard from H since last contact which was, well..... i don't remember.

Yawn.....  ;D ;D

btw.... I love the contact with the in-laws.

Mine turned their backs so fast I felt the breeze.
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« Reply #53 on: March 27, 2018, 07:48:13 PM »
Anytime KIT. Text me.
Nah, you crack me up. :D
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« Reply #54 on: March 27, 2018, 08:53:11 PM »

I'm just happy to have all of you courageous, inspirational women following my boring thread.  :)

There are several of us who have "boring" threads where the last time we had contact with our MLCer was......well, I don't remember either.    ;)

It's nice that we still follow each other and continue to offer support and encouragement.  I'm another LBS who is alone, but feeling less and less lonely! 
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« Reply #55 on: March 28, 2018, 05:12:29 AM »
My thread was boring for a long time too... then, one day, <boom>  Now it will go back to boring...

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« Reply #56 on: March 28, 2018, 07:24:37 AM »
My thread was boring for a long time too... then, one day, <boom>  Now it will go back to boring...

hahaha.... Yes many of us get that too, don't we?

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« Reply #57 on: March 28, 2018, 07:30:53 AM »
You can say that again Nah!!

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« Reply #58 on: March 28, 2018, 07:57:14 AM »
My thread was boring for a long time too... then, one day, <boom>  Now it will go back to boring...

hahaha.... Yes many of us get that too, don't we?

They come in like a seagull....sh!t all over us and fly away.

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« Reply #59 on: April 04, 2018, 07:17:11 AM »
After a long while from last contact from H, I got a text last night from H asking me about a call he got from our home insurance about a claim which I had initiated regarding a home issue.  I explained what it was about. Then he asked the monthly usual 'are the checks there' and I said yes.  To which he responded ok with a thumbs up emoji.  And I just left it at that. 

I did text SS22 to wish him a Happy Easter.  At least he responded two days later with a thank you, same to you.

Though I'm sure there is no rhyme or reason - but I am curious why he chooses to text sometimes and then email other times.  From what I recall, it used to be primarily email.


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« Reply #60 on: April 04, 2018, 12:49:08 PM »
2 days later? Looks like SS has inherited his Dads awesome communication skills. Future Mlcer alert!

Strange that he would text you about the claim. Surely the insurers would have given him the details. Poking his head out a tad?  Big move for a vanisher.
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« Reply #61 on: April 05, 2018, 06:49:05 AM »
2 days later? Looks like SS has inherited his Dads awesome communication skills. Future Mlcer alert!

Strange that he would text you about the claim. Surely the insurers would have given him the details. Poking his head out a tad?  Big move for a vanisher.


Who knows KIT.
I think he just wants to know what's going on over here and if there is an expense involved, while he has his other life over there.  That's all I see. 

Well, I guess better late than never with SS. 
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« Reply #62 on: April 26, 2018, 08:44:30 AM »
Not to much to update.  But did get a text from SS22 in response to my 'how are you' text a couple of days ago.  I have learned that S22 is looking at 'moving'.  Well, I'm pretty sure he lives with H right now.  So, I guess I've got a little monkey braining going on about this new information.
In addition, H's band shows will be ending next month as far as I know.  And, knowing these two pieces of info has me feeling a bit anxious as to what H's intentions / plans might be now -- and what will happen, if anything.

I'm just trying to practice my self soothing techniques and putting it out of my mind.  Doing my best to carry on as I have been.  I've reached out to some LBS friends who always seem to help calm my thinking disease.  :P

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« Reply #63 on: April 26, 2018, 05:31:10 PM »
It's only natural for the monkey braining to start when there is the slightest change in MLC land.  I'm glad you've had LBS friends to reach out to and that the gift of time has taught you different coping skills.  As always, one day at a time  :).

I'm glad SS responded to your text.
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« Reply #64 on: April 26, 2018, 05:37:32 PM »
I guess the positive side too is that SS still feels comfortable around you to share what he’s doing—ie: moving. Response could have been, “I’m doing well” or “not much.”

Anyway, easy to fall into that monkey braining when you hear so little from them. I go down the rabbit hole every time someone mentions they saw my H somewhere. So, I get it.

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« Reply #65 on: April 26, 2018, 06:10:22 PM »
If there was a Masters degree in 'self soothing' we would all have one.  At least the monkey braining seems to slow down after a few years.
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« Reply #66 on: April 27, 2018, 06:50:14 AM »
Thanks KIT, SF and LH.
Appreciate your posts.
I suppose no matter how 'OK' you seem to feel or how 'calm' you learn to be, the triggers are still there and so is the pain.

Just comforting to reach out to friends that understand.   :)
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« Reply #67 on: April 27, 2018, 08:14:15 AM »
We sure do understand Hero. Every time LB sneezes funny I am trying to figure out what is going on with him. It is just natural I guess.   
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« Reply #68 on: April 27, 2018, 08:54:12 AM »
Thanks DF.
Yes, I suppose when there is rarely contact on a regular basis, one tends to exaggerate the contact that does happen!   ::)

Mostly though, i'm doing ok. I keep remembering to have gratitude and stay in the present moment.  Appreciate you following along!
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« Reply #69 on: April 27, 2018, 09:12:43 AM »
Hero, I have a strong feeling he’s monkey braining about you just as much as you are about him.
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« Reply #70 on: April 27, 2018, 12:22:30 PM »
Well, nah, i sure hope so......
I guess you'd have to be totally numbed out or a vegetable to not feel or think about any of this.   ;)
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« Reply #71 on: May 01, 2018, 07:50:38 AM »
Small update.  Had to reach out to H regarding an issue with our internet/tv carrier service.  I emailed him about it and got a text back later that day.  I had a request for him about the service and he actually fulfilled the request the same day and texted me back saying it was done.  For one, I've requested this before and he sat on it for quite some time.  And two, I'm surprised he acted so quickly about my request this time. 

On one hand I think well maybe he just wants me out of his hair, so get it done and it's over.  And on the other hand I think 'this is different' in a kind of good way.  In any case, no expectations and am grateful he was able to assist with this issue.

I've also had some contact with SS22 again recently with him responding to my previous text last week.  Learned he was 'moving' closer to his job and we also had a bit more conversation via text.  (I'm 99% certain SS22 is living with H at the moment, so the moving thing came as a surprise). 

I'm still working at this self soothing thing.   :-\
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« Reply #72 on: May 01, 2018, 08:23:08 AM »
Sounds good Hero.

No drama just they way it should be.
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« Reply #73 on: May 01, 2018, 08:41:56 AM »
Hey nah.
Yea, I suppose.  (yawn)
lol.

Though I do feel some slight anxiety with SS22 new info about moving and H's shows coming to an end.
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« Reply #74 on: May 01, 2018, 08:45:46 AM »
Sure, when there is usually so little news, anything will get us going for a bit.
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« Reply #75 on: May 10, 2018, 08:57:58 AM »
Still nothing really different to update.  One email yesterday from H asking about an alert he got from the carrier/internet service. I confirmed it.  That was it.

I've been in a bit of a funk.  I'll be honest, I've had some tough days.  Not just from getting a contact, but prior to that as well.  I understand it is the LBSer's decision.  Don't need to hear that drilled in my head anymore. 

Just been solemn with a bit of anger.  Regardless of FOO issues, addiction, shame, or avoidance or whatever it might be - my H is a parent, has a job, has a musical talent, and functions well, has to make decisions every day.  The fact that he cannot just tell me (the wife he's had for last 17 years) one way or another what his intentions are, really blows my mind.  If it is because he doesn't want to hurt me, well, it's too late for that.  If he's still on the fence, why not just tell me that?  If he wants out, then just tell me.  I suppose no response or no verbalization is an answer.  And what that tells me is either he wants out and waiting for me to do it, or doesn't know wtf he wants. 

I on the other hand am still coping with the so called limbo life and not making any decisions.

Anyway, just venting here. Chalking it up to just another tough day that will pass.
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« Reply #76 on: May 10, 2018, 09:15:34 AM »

 Hero.. I hear every word you are saying, and I feel it all in my heart..I have no answers or words of wisdom, I simply feel your pain and frustration.

I struggle with all this daily, I'm at the 3 year mark and I'm living in total limbo.. I do the best I can , some days are better than others.. Mine told me a few months ago that he had no plans to come back, but never say never.. then said we had no choice but to divorce.. but has made no move in that direction..

I agree with you on what you say about your H.. mine is the same.. they make decisions everyday on important things.. have jobs etc.. what they are doing makes no sense.. it is all beyond hurtful..

i am praying for you .. sending you love and a big hug...XXXX
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« Reply #77 on: May 10, 2018, 12:00:38 PM »
I feel your frustration, Hero, and for you. No drilling anything into your head. You've been at this long enough to know them all by heart. Glad you have a safe place to vent off a little of that WTH steam....
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« Reply #78 on: May 10, 2018, 01:07:07 PM »
Thanks ladies.
Just one of those days. ::)
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« Reply #79 on: May 10, 2018, 01:37:58 PM »
Some good reading:


I’ve learned that everything has its pros and cons, each cloud has a silver lining, and each silver lining has a cloud. It’s what we choose to focus on that impacts our happiness. 
We could always be chasing the next thing, looking for greener grass. But if we do this, the grass will always be greener even when we get there. And if we live like this, we miss out on all the good stuff we already have, all the silver linings that exist in the now in our current situation.

New relationships generally start well because it’s new and we’re in love. But what about when the novelty wears off, years down the track when we’re living together and bringing up kids?
We realize that our new love is, in fact, human. We get tired, we get irritated, we find they do actually leave clothes on the floor and leave the lid off the toothpaste.
In the same way our new, latest model dream car becomes not so new, or the dream job turns out to be a bit tougher than we thought.
Everything has good and bad, so stop expecting perfection and clinging onto an unrealistic ideal. This results in us always be disappointed.
Life changes as the seasons do. What we needed then may not be what we need now, and either way, we might not have control of what exactly is unfolding. Learn to adapt with these changes, not fight against them. Trying to keep everything the same is like trying to tell the leaves not to fall from the trees in autumn.

Whether the weather doesn’t hold during a party we’ve planned or a long-term relationship ends, things don’t always go to plan. Things change and we don’t always get to hold on to good stuff forever.
Embracing this is key to happiness, as is living in the present and enjoying each moment as it is.  Whatever is happening now won’t last, which is great news if we’re going through a tough time but not so great if things are going well and we’ve just got the promotion we wanted or met our soul mate.
Life is not about what happens to us but how we react to it, and some of our biggest disappointments can lead to better things in life, bringing us new beginnings if we learn to adapt and embrace change. 
Expect life not to go to plan and then you won’t be so disappointed. Accept what is, look for the silver lining, and adapt. Keep looking for the good in every moment and learn from the tough ones.
This is how we not only survive but thrive: by embracing each moment for what it is and choosing to make the best of it.
“In the end, you’ve got to be your own hero because everyone’s busy trying to save themselves.”

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #80 on: May 10, 2018, 08:18:50 PM »
Great post.

It's like anything new, shiny and glorious at the beginning but everything loses its shine after a while and becomes all a lot of the same.

I have lived by what you posted and have always known life wasn't meant to be all new love and new cars or houses and have an appreciation for boring and things we know and love which are old and comfortable.

Unfortunately, MLCers don't.
"And when they ask you about me and you find yourself thinking back on all of our memories,
I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: ""She loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I tried to destroy her."  He failed by the way. 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8412(Denjef's thread)

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #81 on: May 11, 2018, 12:50:21 AM »
Keep looking for the good in every moment. Love this. You said you were hanging something I said in your inspiration room Hero. I’m printing this out and I’m going to read it as often as I need—which may very well be every day! Thanks for sharing!!
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #82 on: May 11, 2018, 06:51:29 AM »
Hey SF.
Thanks for posting.  Yes, new jeans do get old.....and that article just validated that, so I guess it's the one thing that us LBSers' can count on happening with our H's.  That maybe whatever is happening over there will eventually die a slow death - and then there's a change of some kind.

KIT, I wish I could say i wrote that article. What has helped me tho were to keep some posts that people wrote here on the forum, the ones that really resonated with me, and I've kept them in a notebook to refer back to when I'm in monkey brain mode.  Definitely helps bring me back to center.  Hence, the inspiration wall.  ;)
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #83 on: May 15, 2018, 05:50:12 PM »
That resonated with me to Hero.  Thanks for sharing!
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H-42
S-17
D-15
S-12
Friends for 7 years before dating
Married for 14 years
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniversary
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged to her 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Engagement off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Joined POF within the first month back


Link to my journey: 
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9907.0#new

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... it's about learning to dance in the rain."

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"Sometimes -- some things have to break all apart so better things can be built."

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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #84 on: May 16, 2018, 09:43:26 PM »
Just catching up Hero.  Thanks for sharing.   :)
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Re: A Wrinkle in Time
« Reply #85 on: May 18, 2018, 08:21:33 AM »
Thanks for catching up LH!  Good to see you here again.
I've been doing well.  A few strange things occurred with H.  And again, as you LBSers with vanishers or semi vanishers know, anything they say or do can be triggering since we rarely hear from them or see them.

The usual monthly mail/check pick up seemed to have changed up the other day.  H came in thru side garage door this time.  Not using the auto garage door opener as he was doing before. ( I have security cameras so I can view my home when I'm away),  H then came in garage and closed the large auto garage door form the inside, which he had never done before.  Not sure what that was all about.  I also noticed he was driving SS22's pick up truck.  He also seemed to look around garage in a strange way.   I didn't see him leaving with anything or bringing in anything.  So it was a bit strange. 

Other than that, my IL's may stop by tomorrow to show me their newly adopted senior dog.  They are retired and wanted to provide a good home to a senior dog.  I'll be babysitting my nephews little 5 yr old boy on the same day and my sister will be coming to help.  He will be having fun with his aunties!   :D 

I also have a good friend coming to visit next week and will stay with me a couple of days. And a few plans for the holiday weekend after.
Feeling blessed.

“In the end, you’ve got to be your own hero because everyone’s busy trying to save themselves.”

 

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