Registration Agreement

You have the ability, as you register, to choose your display name. Personal names are not allowed whether the personal name is yours or not. Exceptions may be made if a personal name is obviously false--such as an uncommon celebrity name. Some uncommon personal names may not be detectable as personal names and will thus not be weeded out--such as names of mythological deities or words that have standard meanings and are occasionally used as personal names. You may also combine a word that is often a name and has another usage to reflect that other usage--RosyOutlook. This is to protect you not only from identity issues on the web with strangers, but from discovery by your spouse. Some spouses have tracked users through identifiable information posted in the forums.

Welcome to The Hero's Spouse online community. This site exists as an educational and supportive community for the purpose of surviving a spouse’s midlife crisis and/or infidelity regardless of whether the marriage survives or not, though it is based on that as a goal. Not all community members are Standers and not all community members share religious beliefs. This is a community for all Faiths, please be polite and respectful.

The information contained within The Hero's Spouse website family (, and associated subdomains), (collectively 'website' or 'The Hero's Spouse') is provided as general information and is not intended to be a substitute for professional legal, medical or mental health advice or treatment for specific medical conditions. The Hero's Spouse cannot be held responsible for the use of the information provided. The Hero's Spouse recommends that you consult a trained medical or mental health professional before making any decision regarding treatment of yourself or others. The Hero's Spouse recommends that you consult a legal professional for specific legal advice.
Any information, stories, examples, articles, or testimonials on this website do not constitute a guarantee, or prediction regarding the outcome of an individual situation. Reading and/or posting at this website does not constitute a professional relationship between you and the website author, volunteer moderators or mentors or other community members. The moderators and mentors are peer-volunteers, and not functioning in a professional capacity and are therefore offering support and advice based solely upon their own experience and not upon legal, medical, or mental health training.

Posting personally identifiable information in the public forums is not allowed. You may exchange information through the private message system or you may exchange information for meeting on social networks and personal websites such as blogs.

With this user account you are about to register, you agree to never give your password out to another person except an administrator, for your protection and for validity reasons. You also agree to NEVER use another person's account for any reason. We also HIGHLY recommend you use a complex and unique password for your account, to prevent account theft.

After you register and login to this forum, you will be able to fill out a detailed profile. It is your responsibility to present clean, clear and accurate information. Any information the website owner or staff determines to be inaccurate or vulgar in nature will be removed, with or without prior notice. Appropriate sanctions may be applicable.
You agree, through your use of this website, that you will not post any material which is false, defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, vulgar, hateful, harassing, obscene, profane, sexually oriented, threatening, invasive of a person's privacy, adult material, or otherwise in violation of any International or United States Federal law. You also agree not to post any copyrighted material unless you own the copyright or you have written consent from the owner of the copyrighted material. Spam, flooding, advertisements, chain letters, pyramid schemes, and solicitations are also forbidden on this website.

Posts to the website are the property of The Hero’s Spouse ( This is a public forum, available to anyone. By posting personal situations on this forum, you are making it public. If you prefer a private forum, a Subscriber’s Board is available where only moderators or paying members have access. You May sign up and pay for the Subscriber’s Board through your User Profile once your registration is complete. If you do not have posts, we may put your subscription on hold until we determine that you are a Left Behind Spouse and not an MLCer or alienator who may be stalking their LBS.

The Hero’s Spouse retains all publishing and editorial and distribution rights to all content posted. Though it is not the intention to use specific situations in published materials, that remains a possibility. Typically the situations described by posters are generalized, retold and integrated to use as examples when writing articles for publication; it is not the intention to make specific situations identifiable. For example, many of the LBS questions found in the articles at the main site and the blog come from real questions asked in forums. Since these questions may be common and yet situation specific, they are rephrased to be made general.
This site exists to be a support for Left Behind Spouses, but it is also a research site for midlife crisis. It is the policy that memberships are not deleted nor are user threads. We have a private board you may request your story thread/s be moved to if you need it hidden in an emergency.

Note that it is impossible for the staff or the owners of this website to confirm the validity of posts. Please remember that we do not actively monitor the posted messages, and as such, are not responsible for the content contained within. We do not warrant the accuracy, completeness, or usefulness of any information presented. The posted messages express the views of the author, and not necessarily the views of this website, its staff, its subsidiaries, or this website's owner. Anyone who feels that a posted message is objectionable is encouraged to notify an administrator or moderator of this forum immediately. The staff and the owner of this website reserve the right to remove objectionable content, within a reasonable time frame, if they determine that removal is necessary. This is a manual process, however, please realize that they may not be able to remove or edit particular messages immediately. This policy applies to member profile information as well.

You remain solely responsible for the content of your posted messages. Furthermore, you agree to indemnify and hold harmless the owners of this website, its staff, and its subsidiaries. The owners of this website also reserve the right to reveal your identity (or any other related information collected on this service) in the event of a formal complaint or legal action arising from any situation caused by your use of this website.

Please note that with each post, your IP address is recorded, in the event that you need to be banned from this website or your ISP contacted. This will only happen in the event of a major violation of this agreement.

Also note that the software places a cookie, a text file containing bits of information (such as your username and password), in your browser's cache. This is ONLY used to keep you logged in/out. The software does not collect or send any other form of information to your computer.

This agreement is subject to occasional changes. Though we may post a notice of changes, it is your responsibility to keep up with the changes made to this agreement and follow them.
By registering, logging in and participating in this community, you acknowledge, accept and agree to these terms.

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