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#110: October 10, 2021, 09:48:34 PM
Hi PJ,

Glad that things are going well and that your relationship with your STBW is healthy as your plan your wedding and start your marriage together.   This is something that I hope for in my future and know this is something that I will have to face with future relationships.  Thanks for sharing your journey.

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#111: October 11, 2021, 02:49:16 PM
Well I haven't been on the forum for a while and you went and got engaged. Congrats my friend. I am very happy for you! I particularly admire how you have tackled your own issues. An amazing feat for anyone.

Happy for you!
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#112: October 11, 2021, 04:37:21 PM
Thanks y'all!

Alvin - yep. I think I have some habits to change. I hope things are going well with Ms. H!

HF - you're very welcome. Hopefully my story becomes much more boring going forward.

KIT!!!! Good to hear from you again. Yep, old PJ is getting hitched. Thanks for all your help along the way.
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#113: October 12, 2021, 12:39:50 AM
Quote from: PJ Ames
So I'm having to learn that I'm not with an MLCer anymore. I don't have to worry about STBW leaving me or cheating on me if I say something wrong when she's upset. I can actually disagree with her or annoy her without fearing the nuclear option. So, things are good here. Just some occasional tossing of baggage I didn't realize I was carrying.

If I nodded any harder at this, I'd look like one of those dogs in the back window of a car... That whole "tossing-of-baggage-we-didn't-know-we-were-carrying" thing is for real....
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