Journalling

S26 kicked out his wife of 5 months and they are getting divorced. S34 and his fiancee worked through it and skipped the family Thanksgiving gathering. XW Ive been told screamed and disowned our oldest son as if he murdered his brother, being involved with his W so he has been off socials for more than a month now. Hopeful the two brothers can be together in the same room for the holidays.

KA and I have been doing all sorts of fun date things and per usual we are together each weekend and Tuesday nights. She is very busy with D13s volleyball and she is building a house as well as has accepted a new position at work.

This past weekend was my Christmas Party for friends and I had a real good time as did KA and buddy JS and thirty others. There was an ornament grab bag and after the party I discovered someone left a Bigfoot. It belongs to TPB and I said I’d drop it off after work, as I pass her place daily on my commute. She invited me in and we talked for 3.5 hours about our exes and other things. She had mistletoe hanging in the center of the room which I’ve honestly never seen before. When I decided it was time to leave we had a hug and I jokingly pulled her two steps towards the mistletoe to try and kiss her. She just kept turning her head and said You have a girlfriend! I figure if there ever was a chance she wanted one this was it and she didn’t. She then gave me leftover pizza and spaghetti to take home. I left outside to discover my car battery was dead. Head hung low I had to ask her to come out in the freezing temps to give my battery a jump. After more than an hour of trying and feeling terrible overall, it could not be revived. I was tempted to call S34 to help me out but instead took TPBs car home (11 mins away) with the promise to be back with a brand new battery in the morning. She texted me to not worry about anything. This am I gave her key fab back and made it to work on time. I think I will stop texting her. I see her bestie JKR on Friday for a cookie drop off and I wonder if the story will have reached her ears?

And for the full moon tonight (last full moon for 2025) and a "Super Moon" to boot
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Tonight is The Full Cold Moon, it is called the Cold Moon because after tonight the temperature will start to drop rapidly. It is also known as The Oak Moon and Yule Moon. This is an especially special Full Moon because it is the final Full Moon of 2025. This will also be one of the biggest and brightest Moons of the year.
The Full Moon tonight will also be a Supermoon. The Supermoon occurs when the Moon is the closest to the earth more than any other time of the year, making the Moon appear up to 30% bigger and brighter than usual. The Supermoon not only affects nature such as the tides and wildlife it also affects us, our emotions will be heightened, our senses will be sharp, things that were hidden or in the shadows can now be seen. A Supermoon amplifies the effects of a normal Moon, we will be feeling ultra-sensitive and emotional at this time.
Tonight's Full Moon is in the sign of Gemini, it will be an intense highly charged Moon filled with strong emotions coming to the surface, don't hold them back let them out, this is a time of release, of letting go and being our own true authentic selves, let the world see the real you. Something has been building inside of us and now is the time when the energy of the cosmos demands that we let it out.
This is a particularly lucky Full Moon, so don't be afraid to go for the things you want, lady luck is shining on you right now so be ready for all that the universe is ready to gift you, open your hands and your heart and take your universal gifts. Don't be scared to dream big and ask for more. Be positive and open yourself up to allow the good to come in to your life. Be ambitious, go for what you want or put plans into place to get what you want in the future. You will have an inner strength now that will pull you through anything that comes up against you.
This is a time to look back on the year passed and reflect on all the lessons we have learned and the people who have come and gone in our lives. As we come to the end of this year we should use the energy of this Full Moon to energize ourselves for the coming Yule and New Year. All the inner work you have focused on this year will now be the foundation for bringing more power, love and energy into your life in this creative, forward-moving period. On this Full Moon we can truly bring in change and transform ourselves to be who we want to be, we will feel braver and more confident than usual. Good fortune will be on your side. Let your thoughts and desires manifest into something real.
This Full Moon brings light to whatever was hidden in the darkness or buried within the subconscious such as emotional pain or our deepest desires, but once awareness happens you are able to make realistic changes. Our emotional levels move like strong turbulent waves in the ocean during high tide for some on this Full Moon in Gemini, we may feel at a cross roads in our lives and are unsure of which path to take, trust your instincts and let them guide you. Emotional reactions may be strong, energies may feel irritable or uptight, but don't worry this will soon pass.
We are amidst great times of transformation which are heralding major new beginnings. Change isn't always easy or comfortable and it’s constant, so we must strive to keep our balance during these changing tides. Embrace the changes coming and steer them in a positive direction.
Let the air element of Gemini blow away any negativity, let the energy of this Full Moon sweep over you and heal your spirit, use it to heal you both emotionally and physically. Let the moonlight bathe and sooth you, body and soul. Seek a balance of light and dark and see the truth in your life however much it may hurt, only then can we do something about it. Now is a time of reaping the rewards of all the hard work we have put in this year and try and relax a little and let the current take you to a new and exciting New Year.

I’m so sorry 35 years had to end this way. I’m a glass half full type person so I am grateful for the 25y that we had together. That being said it still is horrible to have  such an ending, I guess after 35y you figure you’re on a good place in life, life has other plans it seems. Good luck on this new phase, a phase no one wants but here we are.

Dear Off-road,

There is no logic to the Sunday night. She just wants what she wants but there is a suspicion that it may be due to a reduction in child support if they stay over on the Sunday. The reality is that the case on the Sunday night js hopeless and no father in Australia has been ordered to return their kids at 7 pm on a Sunday.

I am very careful with her. We use an App to communicate that keeps a record that cannot be changed. She recently asked to stop doing that but I have refused until the final orders are made. She regularly sends messages when she ignores me for days on the App about the girls indicating I can call her but then does not answer the phone. I just simply ask her to check her notifications.

There is some indication there may be movement and we may resolve. The inevitability of the outcome and the costs seems to be having an impact but I manage my expectations. Nothing rational is going on.

Thank you for your message. I am very conscious of the dangers. In many respects I have had it easier than many men with the false accusations only relating to financial control and not to family violence. I was never controlling but the fiction leads to outcomes in the Australian system and is also necessary to justify her behaviour.

Help

Hey, TH, yes the knee issue has definitely thrown a monkey wrench into my gym life, but other things have been happening, too!  I need to update badly, but honestly, I guess I just didn't know who was really still following me, since technically, I moved on with my life so quickly and never looked back on my lost M or kept any sort of connection or contact with my xh at all.  I guess I just feel like I'm talking about me, and I don't really have anything else to contribute MLC-wise because I never really allowed myself to get sucked in to all of xh's crazy.

I touched on how crazy healthcare has gotten, so just in the last couple weeks, I have found a new job in the county school system working in their food and nutrition department, which is a huge blessing, since when I went into healthcare in the very beginning, that was where I was at.  It's my niche and what I enjoy doing, hence the bakery.  Which, by the way, I am officially doing, with the Christmas holiday coming up!  So, yes, a lot us happening here on my end!  Always moving and always evolving!  Seems to be the theme in my life.  Hard to believe all the changes that have happened in the almost-10 years since this MLC crap came about.

Oh, and I almost forgot....Popeye and I adopted the sweetest little baby girl from the local Humane Society.  She is a terrier mix with at least some Doberman and possibly Shepard also.  Her name is Daisy, but should be Nosy because she's all about being at the windows watching everything that's going on lol

Never a dull moment.  Life goes on.