So i was listening to Kenda's Facebook Live last night and she said "they seldom return" . It's not that i have never heard this before. But it got me to thinking we ALL have heard this before. Why do so many of us still have hope that the fog will clear?? I realize it will never be the same but one can only hope.
There is always hope. The fine dance we have is to build a life without them and not be "waiting" for the day when they return.
The idea of how many return has been debated many times here and really there is no way of calculating the percentage that return or really any "similarities" in those that do return. Too many variables.
Since I joined HS in May 2010, returns are few and far between.
I had hope because I truly saw us as a couple who had never had any serious problems in our marriage. It was and still is incomprehensible that one day he just told me I had to go. I had hope because he remained in contact and many other things that just never added up.
I have hope still that "nothing is impossible for God".
The fact that is was not just me that he drew away from, but also our daughter allowed me to understand that this was not a marriage issue.
I have hope because of the love I have for him. It has never gone away although I do realize it is love for the man he once was...not this person..yet even this person is still entitled to love, even as he rejects it.
Each of us were in different marriages, each of us have different values and beliefs and so no one should tell us ever that we cannot have hope or that we must "move on" because "they seldom return". Only we can decide for ourselves what and why we continue to have hope and be open to their return.