Well, THIS is a good reason to resurrect a thread. Congratulations on the birth of your Son! I can only imagine the stress and the worries of such an early birth but it looks like everything went well and you all are in good health and spirits!

It is more than good that BF was there and is sticking by you. Gives one a little faith in humanity again, right? And a track record of working through issues instead of going off the deep end and running off into the tunnel.

Congratulations TH on your son! Glad to hear he’s healthy despite being born so early. Must be a big scare for you too. Enjoy your growing family and keep us updated.

Thank you UM!


Hello sweet friends! It’s been a while.. Sadly my life took a turn and I ended on a rollercoaster again, but I can say now I made it through the other end.

To make a long story short; last may I found out I was pregnant, it was planned and I’m super gratefull that I got the chance to get pregnant again. With my daughter I had pre-eclampsia at 38 weeks so this pregnancy I instantly got monitored and put on blood pressure medication to lower the risk of this happening again. Sadly, even with all the precautions my body was starting to show sign of pre-eclampsia at 26 weeks again and we had no other choice then to let our son be born. We spent 13 weeks in the intensive and medium care but we finally made it home <3 For now it seems our son is getting out with no damage, so we’re so so gratefull.

We’ve been through hell and back but my boyfriend and I we’re still the best team even in these hard circumstances! So this is even more the confirmation I found a good guy, that is there whenever I need him.

My daughter is a proud big sister and were enjoying our quiet days at home instead of being in the hospital!

Love TH

Thank you all,

I am on gardening leave for 6 months and that will be tough. I really like work and it was where my friends were. I can’t talk to them while I am on gardening leave.

I think the stress has made me regress a bit. I keep needing some sort of acknowledgment that I have been treated badly by my ex. It is undeniable that I have but for some reason her acknowledging that would help.

But I also know that is impossible. She is adamant that it is all my fault and she has done nothing wrong despite the affairs and pointless legal proceedings.


And it just feels like she has come out of this well, plenty of money from the property settlement, a new man and she has the kids more than me. I know I have grown but I admit a part of me wants her awfulness to have consequences.

I know it is irrational. I just feel so defeated. And yet I love her. Hopeless.

I'm not on here much anymore but wanted to check in. This forum brought me so much comfort at a dark time. Comfort in knowing I wasn't going crazy and comfort in knowing it wasn't all on me. MLCers do such a good job of making you feel small, insignificant and fully at fault. And honestly I think that's what upset me the most about his whole crisis. The manipulation and blame that was so intense I was left questioning every facet of my being. We have been reconciled for almost four years now- remarried for three and I still get a little PTSD when a disagreement pops up. Nothing crazy- just a valid disagreement. When we first reconciled, every disagreement would freak me out, my chest would tighten and I would over analyze and think about what will happen if I say this and how will he react to that. I would go into planning mode and think about what I would do if he left again and how things would work. Being a few more years in- I still have an instant reaction to disagreements but I'm more confident in voicing my views regardless of he agrees. I do love him. But I also know love isn't enough. So I can only do what I can do and the rest is up to him. Some day he may relapse and leave. But I also know I've tried. I've forgiven. I've given more chances than anyone deserves. And I know in my heart I've done all I can. What will be will be. Coming to that realization is a huge weight lifted. Things feel less intense.

Anyway- we are doing great. Things between us are better than ever. Our youngest daughter - the only one still at home- is 14 and she still hasn't forgiven him. They argue a lot still partly because she's a teenage girl but also because there is still a lot of hurt there. He's really starting to see the totality of the damage he did. So yes- even after reconciliation the MLC fallout is still present.

We recently became grandparents and another grand baby is expected in a few months. Shocked me at what a great grandpa he is. And all the support he's offered and given to our daughters during their pregnancies and now. He's come a long ways and love that he's embracing this new season of our life.

Wow- I rambled on. But really just wanted to say thanks. Sending so much love and light to all those going through this.