Big hugs, UL. I hope his weird answer can help with closure. I've never gotten any logical answers, either. It's been 11 years since BD, and 9 divorced. He's since identity-thieved me and filed for Catholic annulment (neither of us was ever Catholic! lol), and that's just within the last few years - when I've had no contact with him whatsoever. He remarried the OW many years ago, so that wasn't what triggered the Catholic nonsense. What did? Who knows. They're just fried, and some of them just stay that way. It gets way easier to accept as we move forward. I hope only good things are in your journey forward now.