(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/my_story_icon_small.png) (http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/my_private_story.png) | My Story This is a record of your journey. Start a thread dedicated to your situation—including common questions you may have. Others will post support and feedback. Please maintain a single story thread until 10 or more pages and then you may request I lock it—multiple threads tend to confuse readers and make it difficult for us to follow your situation and progress. When you start a new story thread, please put a link to your old thread, then return to your previous thread one last time and provide a link to your new thread. You can paste a link by going to the address bar at the top, selecting copy, control c or right click for the menu in MS-Office, then go to the location where you are going to paste and in MS Office select Control v or right click for the menu. Sometimes I find it easiest to do this by having both thread windows open at the same time. The icon with the P is for the Private Board. |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/my_story_icon_reconnecting.png) | Reconnecting There can be low levels of Reconnection, that is not what this is for. Use this for serious Reconnection—so it needs to have been going on for some time and usually your MLCer is home. Some MLCers move in and out multiple times. I might have used this icon for some of Chuck's longer/more serious returns. But often things will still be rocky and a situation may go back to the white story icon. By leaving the older threads with this icon, you can even look back and see the ups and downs-and it is important that newbies realize ups and downs are part of MLC-Normal. This is not meant for an At-Home MLCer who simply never left. |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/my_story_icon_rebuilding.png) | Rebuilding This is when MLC is over. That means it is not to be used lightly. Chuck came home 8 times and I don’t think I would have thought we were ready for this icon once during my stay at the other forum. If things still feel rocky, don't use it. I recommend that you not use this icon for at least 12 months and preferably 18 months after your MLCer has moved home and you have been feeling more secure in working together toward reconciling. Stayed and I can use it. ;) |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/monster.png) | About Midlife Crisis or Infidelity Discuss MLC and MLCer behaviours Your questions: Why does…When will… What is…? |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/Mirror_icon_small.png) | Self-Focus Goal Setting strategies, your progress, Paving the Way topics: Detachment, Forgiveness… |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/Listening-Ear-Heart.png) | Standing Issues & Dealing with your MLCer Put your heart into communication. Discuss tactics and strategies on topics such as communicating with your MLCer; going Dark, Dim or No Contact, Cake-Eating, Legal Issues… |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/discussion_icon.png) | Conversation and Debate Start a discussion on MLC and Standing topics (Ex. Is there really such a thing as a midlife crisis?) Sometimes these topics spark controversy. We need to ask ourselves the difficult questions. This is meant as a safe place, but it is not meant to be a place where you can hide from the world. |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/meet_up.png) | Meet-Up Sometimes people want to meet in person, use this icon to start a thread to talk about a setting up a group meeting. Post Meet-Ups in the Public Board. |
(http://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/off_topic_icon.png) | Off-Topic Birthday wishes, daily quotes, share a recipe, holiday greetings… |
Just a suggestion for everyone that is starting a new thread.
RCR has asked everyone to keep to one thread until that thread is 150 posts
Please help us to maintain this site for us by abiding by those rules.
It also makes it easier on those of us trying to read all these threads
and give you advice to stick to this format.
This is in big type and bold so no one will miss it.