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One he just texted me tonight....

"I didn't walk out on the kids... I walked out on you... Don't get the 2 mixed up EVER again."




I got this too, but he did walk out on the kids.  Refused to support them financially and emotionally, walked out of their lives and hasn't looked back. He doesn't see them, or phone them.  He does not care what they are doing, or cares how they are - physically or emotionally....but... APPARENTLY THAT IS NOT WALKING OUT ON THE KIDS?   I am totally confused......totally gobsmacked....totally floored....what has happened to the man I knew so well?  The man who loved his kids beyond.........
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« Last Edit: March 23, 2017, 05:39:10 AM by Rossbren »
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

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That is horrible that these men just left the kids. I am very sorry!!

My h is being the extreme opposite. He said today " you should consider going back to school and let me take care and f the kids. No reason for you to work Harder. You are still in your 30's and should invest your time while you still can. You can see the kids on your off time"

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M 40
H 41
He moved out May 21,2017
Ow 41( his 1st cousin) moved her in May 23, 2017, she went back to her husband Oct 2017
Ow moved back with her 2 kids Jan 1 2018 even with courts cutting his visitation with his kids because of it
Ow moved out again Dec 2019 and is back with her husband Jan 2020
T-19 yr M-14 yrs
S14 & D88
BD  February 12 2017 & April 22 2017 (signs of MLC since 2015)
I filed for divorce June 2 2017 for protection- final hearing on our 20th anniversary (July 11,2018) divorce was final August 9, 2018

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8791.0
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http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9189.0
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10052.150

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Time to start a new thread, Rossbren.  :)
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A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."


 

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