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#160: January 10, 2022, 04:13:23 PM
Perhaps more neutral is to say that you let know D know and she´s going to take a pass on the offer. The neutrality of that doesn´t open the can of explaining why but conveys she thought about it. Saying she doesn´t want it carries a negative emotion whereas take a pass is more in the realm of meh.
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#161: January 11, 2022, 12:31:45 AM

Not to be harsh but it isn't your job to explain to MLCxH why D doesn't want the village... If anyone, that is really her job. Understandable if she doesn't want to / can't in the situation but it's not your circus, not your monkeys....

I might even be more non-committal than FTT - "I let D know about the offer."

But, since this got out of control REALY quickly, you need a new thread... Yesterday there were 140 posts and today 160+?

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#162: January 14, 2022, 07:16:07 AM
You are correct Ursa (you always are) ...this did escalate....

New thread :

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