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#110: July 29, 2021, 09:00:19 PM
Ready,

I just came to the site and read your news!!!

Really, really wonderful.  Congratulations

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M - 33 years (do the last 3 years count?)
D - 33, D -29, S - 29
BD 5/29/2010, Ran away from home - 8/15/2010,
Found out about affair - 2/11
H asks for divorce - 8/11
H filed for divorce 10/11
Announced "new" girlfriend 12/12 (3rd OW)
Divorce final 06/13 (I decided to finish it)
Dumped OW#3 9/15 (After 4 years)
Married OW#1 2019
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#111: August 03, 2021, 02:34:57 PM
Catching up, Ready. I'll add my voice to the congratulatory chorus. Well done, good sir!
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"I'm slowly learning to expect nothing and appreciate everything."

Together 28 years, married 27. Two adult kids, ours

BD #1: 2016 - EA  |  BD #2: 2018 - FA

W moved out - June 2019 | OM#3 - July 2019
W asks for divorce - August 2019 | Divorce final - September 2019 | Moving on

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#112: September 10, 2021, 02:45:31 PM
Hello All,

It has been a very busy time as we have started a new school year with in person instruction. So far in the past five weeks, we have had three total Covid cases  with three scholars and no staff. But the threat of covid is very real and it puts an additional stress on everything we try to do as a school. However, I am really happy to be back at the site and working with teachers and children again.

My marriage is going well and we are practicing a new way to resolve conflicts. It is based upon two roles, the speaker and the listener. Each part only has one page and while it appears simple, it is a very difficult process. I think the deepest part of it is seeing how certain minor things deeply affect my wife. One thing, I am working on is to give her the time and really listen to what she is saying, asking clarifying questions, and being able to show her empathy. This helps build a powerful connection between both of us.

Otherwise, besides being busy as all can get out, I am really enjoying my life and activities. This week, I  hit a new personal record when I benched three sets of six with 60 lb dumbbells. Tonight, I am going to watch Hamilton with my wife and enjoy a nice weekend together.

The more you focus on you and how to find bliss in your life, to heal from the trauma, the better place you will find yourself.

Hugs to all and have a great weekend,

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Re: Ready for 2020 A Decade after Bomb Drop
#113: September 11, 2021, 06:47:17 AM
I was so happy to hear this update from you, Ready.  You deserve it!
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BD Feb 17 Thinking of divorce
Atomic BD June 17 Spying revealed OM at work
Still home.  Threatened to leave several times and has asked me to leave about a dozen. 
Says divorce proceedings will start Jan 18.
She has scheduled mediation Feb 7,  2018
I moved out March 16, 2018
Several mediations, mostly instigated by me.  Foot dragging by STBXW.  Nothing filed. Yet.
5/2019 STBXW filed D behind my back despite signed agreement to mediate.
I retain attorney.
STBXW still hasn't told me and no further action.
Elephant in the room has been addressed.  No further action atm.  Weighing my options.
12/16/19  She files financial paperwork.  Divorce proceeding.
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#114: September 11, 2021, 07:05:23 AM
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The more you focus on you and how to find bliss in your life, to heal from the trauma, the better place you will find yourself.

Amen to this Ready!  Good to see an update.  Glad you are loving your new job!
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BD #1 Spring 2016
BD #2 Winter 2017
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H never moved out except 3 weeks after BD #1
OW 30 year single mom employee-He says EA only I don’t believe him.
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#115: September 14, 2021, 08:34:50 PM
Great update, Ready.
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#116: September 16, 2021, 10:28:49 AM
Bless all of you trying to navigate this new school year. It has been a bumpy start here with S.  My heart just aches for all of you just wishing for a normal school year after all this time. 

Glad to hear you are bringing the joy everyday. Carry on!!   
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#117: January 04, 2022, 08:50:46 AM
Happy new year ready and hoping this sxhool year is much easier than the last.
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