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#150: April 11, 2022, 02:57:22 PM
Hi Watcher,

Yep it''s time to get out the popcorn. Not your monkeys not your circus.

It's for lawyers and the realtor to deal with.

I hope the realtor has some experience selling property involved in a high conflict divorce. I'm sure realtors are used to sellers who do cooperate.

If anyone suggests to you any improvements or repairs that need to be made after the realtors initial walk through. Your answer needs to be a firm NO.

The house can be sold "as is".

This nightmare has to end.

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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.

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#151: April 11, 2022, 03:17:19 PM
New thread dear.   :)
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A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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#152: April 12, 2022, 08:53:56 PM
So the realtor contacted me today from inside the home as she let him in. He identified 4 major issues. He gave me his listing price and I'm really fine with anything, as long as, the mortgage balance is paid in full.

I will goto his office tomorrow to sign the paperwork and ask him some questions about the prospects of really successfully selling this home.

It felt like filing for divorce again. There's a reluctance but it has to be done. Then I had some anger about 2 of the issues, (bathroom, kitchen) because we had them newly installed when we purchased the home and she and her parents basically destroyed them.

Kind of fitting that she was left alone in the house of ruin.

Then I had some more anger because I thought about how she is going to walkaway with some nice equity based on the listing price. However, I know the listing price will be whittled down so maybe there will be no nice going away equity package for either one of us.

Then, lol, I thought, OMG what if there is not enough equity for her and the boys to find a place to live since she has ruined credit.

Then again, I thought, maybe she has a plan and does want to sell. Well you see why I run now, lol. There's a lot of stress all around. Why should I care whether she wants to sell or not ? However, it's a perplexing question that I keep asking myself.

My IC used to tell me that xW had to destroy everything. She always told me the house would be lost. Maybe even her job one day. Pure self destruction.

It makes me wonder what is next. Marriage gone. House gone. Well the realtor might tell me she is not normal. IDK. See, I think I would have a problem if she were normal. It's easier to accept abnormal.

So hopefully the realtor will not be all doom and gloom tomorrow.

Well I'm off to bed and I did clear this from my head space hours ago. So we shall see what happens.

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