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#150: May 24, 2022, 06:46:12 PM
I hope you are doing something for yourself tonight as I’m sure it was exhausting today. Didn’t she work the whole time you were married or am I getting stories confused?  The argument about having a higher salary doesn’t hold much weight (at least for me) if she has been working the whole time.  It’s crazy how wildly different the spousal support laws are between different states.  The problem is that you are basically being further punished and you aren’t the one that did it.  The theme of them being worried so much about their own finances and not being fair because they want all the money themselves is definitely a thing for my MLCer as well.  Mine acts like I’m ridiculous for not agreeing to a horribly bad deal for me.  They just aren’t grounded in reality.  I hope that at least knowing what you are facing can at least bring some peace by just not having the unknown over your head. 
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#151: May 24, 2022, 07:01:12 PM
JB - Ultimately, she has lost. She has lost you. One day when light dawns on her, that realization is going to hurt like nothing she has ever felt before.  It stinks that you gave 10-20 percent more but I totally get it…… go to court and fight……..the cost………the longer dragged out process………..sometimes it’s just not worth it. Brighter days are ahead!
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#152: May 24, 2022, 07:06:33 PM

 I know that was a emotional and draining day. It hard to keep seeing that they have changed and not who you loved or who loved you.  She seems to not be thinking clearly financially or emotionally, but I know at some point she will and she will regret leaving her loving and stable relationship. Love and dedication is just hard to find and it will be a rude awakening some day. Glad you have that behind you, even if it did not go the way you hoped.
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H-54 W-58 at BD2 M 7/6/91 Kids d-30 s-28 d-14 (dies 2009)
2013- moments of disconnect
Aug 2016 promo requires travel   
Oct 2017-total disconnect
Jan 2018-I force moved out
Mar 2018- BD1 found old phone 3 EA in 2017-H  agrees to therapy
EA ow1-49,  EA-ow2 57, (EA- ow3-58 not reciprocated by ow)
Sept ‘18  2nd Home in new state bought for job
Oct 2018 H moves home
Oct 2020 BD2 does not return home from B trip H move to 2nd home.OW4
Dec 10 ‘20 div filed/H buy prom ring 12/12
Feb 10 ‘21  div final
March ‘21  H & OW on vaca get secretly engaged
July 2021  married OW(find out May‘22)
Oct 2021   XH moves in OW(already married,tells nobody)& SD1
Feb 2022  XH is fired -vanisher
Aug 2022. XH moves in 2nd SD2
Dec 2022. XH starts communication after 1Omths
Dec-current  frequent communication

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#153: May 24, 2022, 07:32:37 PM
This is done. Take some time to live with it and then allow it to go.

You have done all that you can.

This is exhausting and you may experience some physical attention to what your mind/body is telling you.

Breathe, slowly, breathe in cleansing breaths, breath out the darkness.

We are here for you.
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