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My Story Still breathing and confused
#150: December 12, 2021, 05:21:54 PM
Glad you’ve started taking the dig for regular walks. That helped me immensely. As for the rest of the advice given, you’ve only a few months out. That’s very very early. Don’t let others guilt you into what you ‘should’ be doing. You do you. Work out what helps and what doesn’t. It’s very early to just not be thinking about the situation at all (or even for a short time every day). It’s ok to aim for those things. But don’t beat yourself up if you’re not achieving that. It takes YEARS to heal from such a devastating trauma. Be kind to yourself.
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M: 52 (48 @ BD)
H: 54 (51 @ BD)
Married 20yrs, together 23yrs
D: 23 (19 @ BD)
D: 21 (17 @ BD)
'Extra D': 21 (17 @ BD)
BD (that I didn't recognise as such) Easter 2018
BD 9th Sep 2018
OW (45, now 49) - he (supposedly) met her in the pub a week before BD, told me about her a week after BD. Thinks 'their planets have collided' because 'their eyes met across the room' and they had an 'instant connection'. Lives with her. Is building a life with her.
Jun 20: H plans to buy a block of land and build a house with her (never happens).
May 22: Movement... (likely T&G? Time will tell I guess)

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#151: December 13, 2021, 12:03:25 AM
It takes YEARS to heal from such a devastating trauma. Be kind to yourself.

And while you are practicing self-care, you can start a new thread...

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Still breathing and confused
#152: December 13, 2021, 01:03:12 AM
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« Last Edit: December 13, 2021, 01:05:22 AM by Pacman »
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Affair found out April 2021
BD June 23rd 2021
Moved out July 8th 2021(Same day our granddaughter was born)
Back with LO Dec 2021
Moved in with AP May 2022.


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