That also hit home for me. When all this started she came home and said she was so happy. She told me people at work told her she was ‘glowing’ since she was so happy. Fast forward to now where she’s miserable. The ‘happy’ is just infatuation that fades with time, true love is like a pilot light. always on and reliable.

I agree with your anger, Nick threw away all those years with Anne for what? Such a waste, Anne seems lovely

My husband has been depressed for about 18 months. The BD was about a year ago... He told me I should move out--over something he is upset about that didn't happen. I refused and fought. I am devoted to him and he was going through a really rough time. We had a few months that seemed better. But he mentally checked out during those months, asking me about creating a dating profile and making other hurtful, inappropriate comments.
 
Recently he's said that he can't trust me and said, "I want to split up, I love you and I want to be with you but I don't want to be married to you." We tried IC & MC counseling but he lied to both counselors, exaggerating or outright lying to tell them only what fit his narrative. It resulted in him claiming I'm emotionally abusive and he should leave the marriage.

The problem is, I live in a house he owns, and I don't want to be around this alien who has taken over. I also don't want to be around him if he thinks I am abusing him. I really care about him and I think he needs professional help with past trauma that is affecting his perceptions and decisions.

I took some of my things to a friend's house and stayed with her after the last counseling session. I haven't heard from him since. I'm out of town now for work for another week.

We have a joint account with a substantial amount of money in it, and no other shared assets or children. After NC for a week I am concerned he will drain the joint account or trash my belongings when I'm not home. I want to text him to check in but I also don't really want to talk to him as this is a critical two days at my work and I need to detach from home drama in order to focus. It's all so overwhelming.

The whole play scene was very satisfying! When the AP is so embarrassed that she leaves is perfect
It’s even better Nick had to sit through the whole play next to his ex wife, again so satisfying.

I saw this one Amazing. It was a trigger for me and honestly, I was happy he died from the accident. I cried when his daughter was screaming at his face telling him how he firetrucked up their lives. I could feel her pain. It was a nice series.

UM,

I have often speculated that SIL had a MLC too.   I see so many things now that I was unaware of then:

1.  She up and left her H with no warning.  He was the bad guy.   Her H was moody but not all that bad.   Of course, I only heard her side of the story.
2.  There was OM in the wings.  She had rekindled a relationship from Junior High.  This was hid from me.  Only H knew about it and he enabled her.
3.  She stayed married to ex H until OM demanded they get married.  He was very controlling and got her away from family as soon as they married.  He traveled for work but demanded she live in Florida despite him not being there during the week and he could have went anywhere on the weekends.
4.  OM was a horrible man that could do no wrong in SIL eyes.   They never fell out of love since Junior High.  They were just separated by circumstances all these years.
5.  When OM was around, no one else mattered.  It was about the two of them.  Even changing family  traditions because he wanted something different.  Didn't matter that no one else in the family wanted to change.   They just did it and everyone else was just ignored.  This caused stress at holidays
6.  OM ended up dying suddenly and I think it froze her in her MLC for many years.   I think she is now starting out of it and her grand baby is what is pushing her forward.  She is more pleasant and open and is more like SIL that I knew 15 years ago.   She is still madly in love with OM.  She has no relationship with EX (they both burned bridges - her with the affair and her actions - he became bitter)  but she is treating other family better.  However, she still has pauses where she is not right but they are shorter and farther in between.  She is much less controlling about little things.

She has been a HUGE enabler of H.  She lied to protect him.   She guided him on leaving me.   He left me the same way she left her H.  Sneaking out when no one was home.  Other similarities too.   I think she is softening....not because of H but because she is progressing through the tunnel herself.    Just my thoughts.