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My Story Love and insanity
#150: July 26, 2021, 02:23:39 AM
TornUp,

just a couple of things as the advice and questions that you have already gotten are quite correct....

My mom was a clinical psychologist in both public and private practice for many years and one of the things that she was adamant about was that, if someone is truly suicidal, the place for them is inpatient therapy and she was a professional. She realized that, if one of her patients was really serious, there was not going to be ANYTHING that she was going to be able to do about it because she was not physically present with the patient 24x7.

The second thing is that, despite the fact that your kids are in the company and somewhere up in the ladder, the fact that xH has chosen to do the mattress mambo with a subordinate is HIS choice and his alone. If he ends up suffering the consequences for his actions, that is 100% on him and has NO reflection on either you or your kids.

Finally, he has divorced you. He wants to have his own life with OW. Let him have it. You have been fired from the position of his personal saviour and replaced with OW. Let her do her job of rescuing him. His mental stability is no longer your responsibility (actually never was but that is a different story) and the ONLY person that can be responsible for HIS mental health is HIM...

And, for what it is worth, it is time to start a new thread as this is post # 150

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