[UrsaMajor]

Hey Stormy,

Nice to see you again and it sounds like you are on the way back to a real relationship.  OP has it right that the LBS needs to be careful so that we don't get sucked into a premature return but, from what you've written, you are taking care of that....

the individual and joint counseling sounds like it is a real benefit for you both... And that is good... the fact that the Mid-Lifer is actually DOING it for themselves, is a step in the right direction

UM

[StormChaser]

Just a small update.

Things with W and I are still slowly progressing. Our lives are exceedingly hectic, and we've had a few "extra" stressful events lately. Some financial challenges have made pre-Christmas very hard. Her parents have stepped up to help us so that's quite the blessing! Trying to power through this and hoping that it will be a small temporary hiccup.

Still hard to get my W to be open and specifically be vulnerable. She's so conditioned to be "perfect" that it feels like she's afraid to be open.

She did however put on her wedding ring a couple weeks ago. She travels quite frequently for work, and one of the days she was back, I looked and noticed it was back. She had been wearing a ring we had bought together on a family trip for the last few months, but I guess she felt it was time to put it back on. Haven't made the time to sit down and ask her about it, but will in the next few days...

Every day is an opportunity. Don't let it pass you by.

SC.