[Biscuit]

Wise words Treasur…..

I have many many good folks around me, family and friends….lovely caring people that treat me incredibly well and are always there for me. I feel loved and I realise how lucky I am for that.

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Hello,

So sorry for your loss and the realization that your ex is no longer anywhere close to the person she was.

Dissapointing at the end of the evening though, old W would've made sure I had company tonight and didn't grieve on my own. New W could not wait to get away so she could hang with her new friends and whatever.

In the end, she is the "oh well" and move on because, it is all about her. From her mindset, she is living her life while you wallow in the old life. Nothing is going to change that for now. She is on full course ahead and has just introduced her new "whatever" into the kids lives. You are just a year past BD which brings it's own visual memories and pain. On top of it all, a close friend just passed away.

But enough about the MLCer and her antics. Instead, let's look at what you have done since bomb drop. You have gotten back into shape, forged strong relationships with your children who were just as hurt by all of this as you, and are now much more present in your own life. It's like the mantra of boxing, "It's not if you are able to throw a punch, everyone can do that, it's how hard of a hit you can take." Think of all the hits that you've taken this past year and you are still on your feet and moving forward. You are reclaiming your own self and your power.

I've met a couple of new friends who have been a breath of fresh air and I've been enjoying their company, however the trust thing comes in with new people and I catch myself wondering why these people want to be my friend, what do they want etc. It's simple really, they want to be around me because I am fun, loving and giving. Sometimes hard post BD to realise this but I'm worthy of people's time and affections!

You should continue to give your trust freely. I am in 100 percent agreement that you are fun, loving, and giving. I just need to read the positive words that you post on others' threads and it comes through and through. Trust those around you. There is a lot of power in trust and you can use this power to heal.

Have a great day,

((((Ready))))

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Also, to beat the bear to the punch, you need to start a new thread.

High five,

Ready

[Nas]

I’m sorry for your loss, Biscuit.

[JohnnyBravo]

Sorry to hear about your friend, Biscuit.

[UrsaMajor]

Biscuit's New Thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=12045 - UM