Well, it finally happened - W went FB official with her "twu love", a man. A friend shes known for so many years, one that encourages her, looks past her past blah blah blah.
Apparently, she changed her status to In a relationship, not realizing that people would see it on their timeline, so in typical MLC fashion, she had to make a post - it reads:
"In 2021, I will Fly. I recently changed my status to in a relationship, not realizing it still automatically posts to your timeline. When I did realize, my first reaction was panic and quickly spiralled down to a black hole of "what ifs". What if its too soon, what if people judge me, what if Im perceived as boastful or insensitive, what if what if what if.
I stopped myself. I have viewed to let go of shame and guilt about my past. I have vowed to be happy. I am in a relationship, with a man who has been my friend for years, a man who has been there for me, supported me, encouraged me. A relationship that started off as an amazing friendship and has turned into an even more amazing love. he makes me happy and fulfilled in a way and with a love, that I am just experiencing for the first time. I have jumped, and perhaps I could fall. Or perhaps, I can finally fly"
It hurts. It really hurts. For the record, I have her blocked on all social media. But she kept my family on there, and my moms best friend called and asked what the eff is going on with W's post. So my mom looked. She sat on it for a few hours - torn about whether or not she should tell me. So she showed up at my apartment door crying, said she needs to talk, she has something to share. I thought something happened to my brother, I thought something happened to someone, she was so distraught. And she told me. And she cried. She cried because my Ex GF left me for a man, and I have struggled with it. She knew this would devastate me, but wanted me to hear from her, before all my friends start checking up on me.
And to be fair, I expected this. My W went vanisher on me, so I knew there was someone else. I suspected there was a man, or was going to be a man. Its MLC right? But it hurts. Ive not stopped crying for 12 hours.
Im mad. Im mad she couldn't ask for a damn divorce before going public, knowing FULL WELL you still have my mother on my FB. She knew this would get back to me, theres no way she didn't think it would. Im mad, because I gave 10 years of my life to someone I dont recognize. I'm mad because shes been nothing but a coward. Shes not asked for her divorce, and she cant say "I dont know how shes going to react if I do", and then put a post like this up.
Shame and guilt about your past? Ya you should be. You've cheated on BOTH your wives. Oh and the kicker? She didn't have male friends, so this "friend" is someone from her past. A friend of her and her ex wife. They used to always do drugs together. Classic MLC, run to the past.
Its opened a pandoras box of hurt that I haven't experienced in months. It's left me wondering if he was the one she cheated on me with, all along. She is incapable of being firetrucking honest for a damn minute. And I would have died on a sword for her, thats how much I loved her.
I know I'll be okay. I know this is the closure.
I have blocked her from all forms of communication - I dont want her to suddenly get a conscience and reach out. The only place she can get a hold of me, is through work email.
Maybe she was trying to get my attention. Maybe she was waiting for me to message her a flurry of hateful words. But I've changed, and that was the old me. So I do what's best for me, and thats to not engage, and protect myself from any further harm from her. I've asked my mother and brother to remove her from FB so that my mother isn't filled with the guilt of whatever comes next. Maybe shell get pregnant - thats MLC outcomes, no? That will hurt since we tried to have kids, but for my heart, I need to protect myself
I think the ultimate irony of all of this is, she hated my Ex GF for what she did to me. And now, my W has basically replicated what my ex gf did. Cheat, blow things up, start sleeping with men.
You cant make this $h!te up