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#130: April 19, 2023, 04:12:49 AM
Hi guys!  I pray you are all well.  It’s true what they say, you only know you have reconnected or reconciled by looking back over the course of time.  When it’s happening it’s hard and you really don’t know if you can trust it.  For many of us by the time they come back, we aren’t sure we want it.

My husband and I are fully reconciled and he is fully out of his MLC.  He in so many ways is similar to the man he was before and in many ways he is better.  He is just much more grown up, mature, he really goes out of his way to take care of me and the kids in a thousand little ways.  He has been back home for almost 2 years and in my room for 9 months.

We have an entirely new relationship and I am much more independent than before.  The kids are all well and slowly they healed their relationship with him as well.  It’s like anything in life, it all happened and we won’t forget.  He can’t get those almost 3 years back of being gone, but we have moved forward.  He proves himself day after day and in many ways he is a better man for what he went through and I am a stronger person.  Not that I would wish this on anyone or willingly have walked through it.

Praying for each of you as you walk this journey out.

Finding Joy, your story has given me hope for my own journey, one that my W has just embark us on.  I will be reading back through your threads and hope the content will give me the strength I need to stand and be that lighthouse.  At the moment I am stuck in sadness for our young children and also for my W.  Thank you for sharing your tale.

Best of luck to you and your family and may the future bring you all ever more joy

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At a crossroads with a possible reconnection...
#131: April 19, 2023, 05:28:19 AM
Well, to finally FINDING JOY !!  Wonderful update on your life and family FJ.
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#132: May 03, 2023, 06:22:39 PM
Thank you all so much!  I’m praying for you all and appreciate the goodwill.  My hope is that my story helps someone.  Starting a new thread.  I really don’t remember how to lock this.
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« Last Edit: May 03, 2023, 06:35:25 PM by Finding Joy »
Married 23 years
Husband is 45
4 kids 9-18 years old
BD-October 2018-ILYBNIL, wants a divorce, 2 OW at different times.
April 2019 He got an apartment and moved out.
Oct 2019-Apologized for a years worth of monster behavior.  Still wants to start divorce this Spring, is distant, but friendly.  Tries more with kids, but superficial.
2020-He has continued to help out when asked and be polite.  I do think he questions his choices at times.  I do not believe he has OW.
Oct 2020-He wants to get back together.  I am unsure. 
August 2021-.  He has shown very gradual, but consistent progress.  He moved back home.
December 2022-He has been home for 1 1/2 years reconnecting, in the room with me for several months. I now consider us reconciled.


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