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#90: November 03, 2023, 06:10:34 PM
FW- Taylor Swift just sat behind me in Travis Kelces private suite at the Chiefs game vs the Bears. We took selfies and she shows up in so many because of her being behind us.

What?!  That is so cool ML.
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#91: November 03, 2023, 06:11:40 PM
No way! Yes way?

Right!?  My D would have been so excited.
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#92: November 03, 2023, 06:23:01 PM
So what's changed since I last posted.  D21 I guess decided that since S23 has a girlfriend that she should go and get a boyfriend.  S18 hasn't met the guy and already doesn't like him.  Is it a protective brother thing?  She kind of sprung him on me, but I'm trying to keep an open mind about him, lol.  I have a feeling that if I start dating, S18 might be the exact same way.  Future dude might have his work cut out for him.  I'm super curious to know if MLCer is aware that D21 has a boyfriend.  But I have no idea.  I am glad she has a boyfriend.  I've been worried that her F broke her heart too when he pulled his MLC routine while she was the tender age of 13 and this is her first boyfriend, at 21 years of age.  I am worried for her but I also think that she's super strong, and no matter if this is just the first of others, she will be okay.

I am still fostering D21's kitten at my house.  Oy vey.  Love him, but I didn't want another kitten.  So I will be glad when she takes him home to her place.

We met S23's girlfriend at opening night of the Taylor Swift movie.  What are the odds that of all the theaters and all the showtimes, we would pick the exact same showing?  2 weekends ago they joined M, D21 and I for Church and we all went out to breakfast together afterwards.  I really like her!  And I really like that he can be his authentic self around her, and that she digs his authentic self.  That really made me happy to witness.  He was just the S23 I know and love the whole time we were out to eat.

So yeah, that's my update.  We could be adding a few extra seats at Christmas for the new additions.  Or I may be juggling even more when I will see my kiddos, but that's ok.  Life goes on!

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#93: November 06, 2023, 01:49:51 AM
I can sympathize with the putting off the exam thing.... My doc has been badgering me to get a colonoscopy for a couple of years now ("You ARE getting older, you know...") although there were/are no indications of anything amiss... I finally got one scheduled for next week... Yippee... I am SO thrilled (NOT!)

I hope it went well for you UM

Absolutely clean... just as I expected.... My GP was giving me a hard time (a bit) and was telling me that I was so much easier to deal with than most of her patients my age (gee, thanks Doc) because I am not overweight, don't have high blood pressure or high cholesterol, and I am not sedentary.... She got big eyes when my resting EKG had a pulse of about 53..... and asked if I do lots of sports..... I told her compared to some people (like Watcher) I am a couch potato but compared to others that I know, I am pretty active... I bike 11 miles daily, pretend to play squash with my D12 every week, lift weights with S16 weekly and hit 2 Aerobics classes per week at work on my lunch hour....
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#94: November 10, 2023, 05:18:21 PM
I had a lovely dinner last night with another Class of 2015 LBS who happened to be visiting my town for the first time.  It was very nice to catch up since the last time we got together, which has been quite a few years. 

It just reminded me of the good things that have come out of Bomb Drop and that is all the wonderful folks here that I have "met."  Some that I haven't yet met in person and some that I have. Some I am now Facebook friends with and we follow each other's lives there.

I think often about the ones that were here when I started and some that have been here through the years that aren't on the site at all or as much as before.  I often think about them and wonder how they are doing.

I do wish some would come back and update from time to time, but I also understand why they might stay away.

Anyway, I am grateful for this site and the wonderful people who are on it.  That's all.   ;D
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#95: November 10, 2023, 11:47:41 PM
Me too. I wonder about some folks and how they are. I hope that it means that with time, they healed (whatever that means for them).
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#96: November 28, 2023, 06:28:35 PM
FW, I guess I knew you were the class of 2015, but for some reason thought it was after mine.  I suspect it's because we were different years, but just one month apart lol. My bd was Jan 2016.  Anyway, I am rarely around anymore,  but things with me have been great, as they seem to be with you, as well.  I love it when I see the LBS thriving and making the most of the gift of time 😎😍
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#97: December 21, 2023, 08:28:31 AM
BB, it was probably because I didn't find my way onto the forum until August or September of 2016, after BD, after the divorce had been finalized and I was already living with my brother.  So you likely had already been posting here a while.   :)
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#98: December 21, 2023, 09:42:36 AM
A little update on me.  I was in a car accident on December 7th.  The other guy full ran a red light and t-boned me, no braking, nothing.  My car is likely totaled but there has been a delay on everything, which is frustrating, but being an LBS'er my skills in patience are unmatched.

Thankfully, he hit on the driver's side mainly behind where I was sitting.  I was completely blind-sided so I didn't know it was coming.  I was on my way to work and focused on another car that was in a spot where people always merge and don't always obey the yield sign.  My car was spun and forced into there's.  Thankfully, the front air bag didn't deploy, just the side airbags.  The other driver's car was also towed from the scene but he was out of his vehicle checking on me and said he was ok.  The third party that I hit drove away from the scene with a fender bender to their side fender near the front tire.

I rode to the ER for a chest x-ray and was released within a few hours.  It took me over a week to get a rental car.  I had a follow-up appointment with my doctor this past Tuesday and I have a sprained neck.  I've been off this week from work for a previously planned "stay-cation" week.  I've been trying to take time for rest and breaking up any errands, shopping activities, all those things into small chunks, as I get fatigued real easy when out and about, not to mention a little bit of anxiety still when driving through intersections, and of course with a sprained neck, it hurts to turn and look over my shoulder when changing lanes.

After a few hours, it hurts to hold my own head up and I have to lay down and take a break.  I worked a 40 hour week last week after taking a 4 day weekend (including the day of the accident).  In hindsight, it probably didn't help my recovery, but we do what we have to do, don't we?

I'm feeling really grateful that the accident wasn't worse and that my mom wasn't with me, while simultaneously frustrated and sad that I have to deal with the aftermath.  I think that's fairly normal.

With everything else going on any other former milestone dates in December pretty much just slipped by without a thought or a mention lol.  Previous anniversary day wasn't even on the radar December 1st, and BD date slid by unnoticed.  I am struggling feeling Christmassy this year, but not for the past issues.  I have heard that from a lot of people this Christmas season, that it's been hard to find the Holiday joy and Christmas spirit that has been in Christmases past.
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#99: December 22, 2023, 06:04:57 AM
Hello,

So sorry to hear about the accident and glad that you are okay.

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I rode to the ER for a chest x-ray and was released within a few hours.  It took me over a week to get a rental car.  I had a follow-up appointment with my doctor this past Tuesday and I have a sprained neck.  I've been off this week from work for a previously planned "stay-cation" week.

Very wise. Often right after the accident, you feel fine and the shock overrides a lot of soft tissue and joint issues that then tighten up and remind you that you are hurt 24-48 hours after the incident. I am sorry about the sprained neck. Ouch and really hard to deal with. I wish you a speedy recovery.

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I am struggling feeling Christmassy this year, but not for the past issues.  I have heard that from a lot of people this Christmas season, that it's been hard to find the Holiday joy and Christmas spirit that has been in Christmases past.

So t's not just me. I have the house decorated and making a lot of food for our Christmas Eve party, but I am just not in the mood. We are even exchanging gifts this year and I am fine with that. I am not upset nor is anything going wrong in my world, but I just don't have that feeling of Christmas joy. Maybe all the nonsense that is going on in our world has left me feeling a bit uneasy about our future. It's just a strange feeling and I hope that as time passes, it gets better.

Well, I've got to make some peanut brittle and go to the gym. I hope you have an awesome day and that you feel much better!

Merry Christmas,

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