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My Story Reconnecting Working it out 24: Inhaling the future and exhaling the past
#150: September 13, 2021, 01:04:14 PM
I am very sorry about your lamp, Song.
And I hope you are proud as hell for how you dealt with the situation  :)
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Working it out 24: Inhaling the future and exhaling the past
#151: September 14, 2021, 04:29:17 AM
That "little testosterone wall" thing kind of makes one want to pull out a razor for a testosteronectomy sometimes, doesn't it?

It's like "Uhhhhmmmmm ... hey guys? It was MY lamp that got broken. HOW is not relevant at this time. The question is how does it get fixed."

I'm really sorry that it happened and that it was such a $#!tshow between S and H. I can definitely see how a bit of time apart might do both of them a lot of good....

And, you need a new thread....
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Working it out 24: Inhaling the future and exhaling the past
#152: September 20, 2021, 01:40:17 PM
Thank you for the update, Song. I think the bit that resonates most for me is your choosing yourself. Reaching that place where you can love these people, genuinely want them to find their healing and a happy path forward - and recognizing that in order for them to find that healing and for you to continue on your path forward, it may be necessary for your paths to diverge, at least for a while… well, each story is unique but I feel like that part is true for many of us, and it’s such an important part of this process.

Completely agree. There isn't any way in this world or the next that I could have undergone the necessary personal growth had my wife and I not been separated for five months. We could actually have done with being apart considerably longer than this.

Great to see you're in a good place, Song and Dance.
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