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#150: February 20, 2021, 11:32:57 AM
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I'm thinking there is going to be a request to rent the home to her and IDK if I really want to be tied to her any longer through the home. The mortgage is more affordable than her finding an apartment to rent in NJ.

Would that start throwing maintenance and upkeep at you, since you'd technically be her landlord? I would absolutely avoid that, even if it means the boys will move. Maybe a change of scenery would be better for them in the long run. Sounds like apartment life would be a better fit in a lot of ways, honestly.
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#151: February 20, 2021, 11:47:24 AM
Again everyone has a past at this age and some things still left to deal with  in future relationships can seem pretty odd.

Still I think the house needs to be sold.

And a future relationship with some else? You need to find an apartment for yourself first imho. Something with enough room for your sons.

Your living arrangements currently (even if you had a lady friend who had her own place you can go to) may be a turn off for most intelligent,  mature women.

 You know the question is going to come up in a new relationship "Where do you live?".

Now think of how that answer sounds.
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Re: BRAND NEW MAN 10
#152: February 20, 2021, 12:04:25 PM
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I'm thinking there is going to be a request to rent the home to her and IDK if I really want to be tied to her any longer through the home. The mortgage is more affordable than her finding an apartment to rent in NJ.

Would that start throwing maintenance and upkeep at you, since you'd technically be her landlord? I would absolutely avoid that, even if it means the boys will move. Maybe a change of scenery would be better for them in the long run. Sounds like apartment life would be a better fit in a lot of ways, honestly.

Yup
There is nothing good for you in that option lol.
But you know that of course  :)
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#153: February 20, 2021, 04:41:19 PM
Hi Ready2Transform, Treasur, Init,

Oh I agree. The house needs to be sold if she cannot obtain a mortgage in her name as we need to sever this last financial connection. Renting to her would be a nightmare and just prolong her being involved in my life in some capacity. Also, I believe we may have problems selling it because it has deteriorated already. I haven't been inside it in well over a year.

Well I can go rent an apartment whenever I choose however I want to own instead as it gives me more flexibility. Divorce is a financial process and I've been impacted financially as I do pay 1900 a month in support. Yes I have to pay it however it still is real money. Its a very real deduction.

Meanwhile I'm still paying legal fees and forced school tuition.

Like I said, she has been quiet so maybe she will remain so. LOL, I have no plans on telling a woman where I live ever again, let alone inviting her inside, hahahaha. Do you see what happened to me the first time I did that ? LOL....

Have a good night

Thanks

New thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11723.0
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