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OP: February 10, 2021, 11:58:37 AM
Episode 14 brought to you by Joe Bonamassa's song "Stronger Now In Broken Places"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2-s60xkP6kg

Previous thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11618.msg778638#new

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#1: February 10, 2021, 12:28:47 PM
Welcome, FW.  I love Bonamassa.
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#2: February 10, 2021, 03:07:23 PM
Tuning in to the next episode  8)

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#3: February 10, 2021, 03:19:40 PM
Joining you for this next chapter! Love the title... it’s exactly where we all hope to be.
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#4: February 10, 2021, 06:53:51 PM
Still with you, FW. 

Just caught the end of your last thread.  So MLCer is moving.......again! 

I agree with UM in that it's hard to tell what goes through (or doesn't go through) their minds regarding things like changing addresses when minor kids are involved. 

From my view in the cheap seats you do, indeed, have a right to be irritated.  Not that it will accomplish anything, but I'll validate your urge to be grouchy about it! 
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#5: February 10, 2021, 07:16:16 PM
Welcome aboard all.

Thanks for the validation, SB.   ;D

Yes, MLCer is moving into a rental and selling his house.  Apparently, per D, the plan is to be in a rental about a year while they build a house and then make another move into the built house.  He has told the kids that every kid will have their own bedroom there, not at the rental, but at the built house.  His kids and her kids.  I doubt that includes my S20.  Keep in mind that the youngest of the kids between his and hers is S15.  D18 is the next youngest.  Why on earth (??) would they need a bedroom for every kid when the youngest will be S15 who will be S16 next month which means he would be S17 by the time they have the house built.  Okay then.  ???

Her D19 (D20?) is moving in with them in the rental house temporarily.  She has 2 D's really close in age.  I think they are 19 and 20, or 20 and 21, something like that.
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#6: February 11, 2021, 01:34:07 AM
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#7: February 11, 2021, 08:22:43 AM
Faith -
The title of your thread caught me because as a broken bone heals, it forms a callous around the break to strengthen it.  That was immediately what came to my mind...
Sad that your H is moving again.  IDK why every child would need their own room, unless (in his mind) he’s hoping to have one big happy family, and thinking about the holidays.  My H also moved into a 4500 SF home with his ow/now wife.  Of course, my sons stay with me when they’re in town and I only have 2 extra bedrooms (3 sons).  Your H won’t find happiness in that big house either.  Still running and searching for the panacea.

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#8: February 11, 2021, 04:31:43 PM
Welcome aboard UM and Sea.

I had a bad dream last night that involved ex H.  In my dream, his new wife worked for a company I used to work for and was snooping through my file.  Just for fun, we had done some sort of little exercise about the "future" and the company had us fill out a where we will be in 5 years sort of thing.  I had filled out this paper years prior to meeting H and marrying him, but it was dated for the future, so it looked suspect.  It had someone else's name as my husband (as it was just for fun, and was probably my crush at the time or whatever).  She triumphantly shows this to my ex husband.

So in the dream, my ex-husband drops by to confront me about this paper that his wife had found, and is just horrible to me.  I am mad that she snooped through my file, feel that I shouldn't have to explain myself over a paper I filled out WELL before we ever dated or married, and then took the opportunity to tell him how devastated I was over the fact that he divorced me and was sleeping with other people.  How he had no idea how awful that feels, how soul ripping.  He could not look me in the eye once he was no longer on the offensive and I was.

I was not able to shake the feeling of being attacked, wrongly accused, and was upset for a little while after waking up.
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#9: February 11, 2021, 05:54:34 PM
Along for the walk, Faith.

First of all, thanks for sharing the song. Somehow I had never heard it before. What a message! I was just texting my xw about some things and I had your song going through my head. Thank you.

Sorry about the dream. It's a lousy feeling to be wrongly accused.

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