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My Story My life after separation with a clinger
#150: September 02, 2021, 01:54:13 AM
And, while you are contemplating Treasur's note and hunting for small joys, you need to stat a new thread....

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Me - 58, xW - 50
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 14, D - 10
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BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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My life after separation with a clinger
#151: September 02, 2021, 02:53:23 AM
A PS from me...

Thank you for reminding me over and over again.
I want to remind you to honour and respect the life you have been living. For at least two years now, a bit over. Plus his EA in 2009. Plus living with his depression since, what, about 2012.
Not bc of what this says about your h or what you should do about the whole situation.
Simply bc this must have been a hard and exhausting way to live at times. And how you feel now is also an effect of that reality. We heal imho by treating ourself with great kindness and gentleness, particularly if life has been hard and exhausting for longer than we like to remember.
And I am sending you one of my best hugs and a head butt kiss from Gracie the cat x

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« Last Edit: September 23, 2021, 04:51:44 PM by Thunder »
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.
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