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My Story Best of Times and the Worst of Times
#90: November 25, 2021, 01:28:36 AM
Good for you, HF - you are setting boundaries based on what you need for your growth and healing. Of course she doesn’t like those boundaries… even though you aren’t setting them in order to make her deal with some consequences of her actions, that’s one of the results, and they don’t like consequences. They want to blindly pursue their “happiness,” and they want everyone to be thrilled for them - even the people they use and discard along the way. You have instead chosen the healthy grownup path.
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#91: November 25, 2021, 03:48:41 AM
Good for you, HF - you are setting boundaries based on what you need for your growth and healing. Of course she doesn’t like those boundaries… even though you aren’t setting them in order to make her deal with some consequences of her actions, that’s one of the results, and they don’t like consequences. They want to blindly pursue their “happiness,” and they want everyone to be thrilled for them - even the people they use and discard along the way. You have instead chosen the healthy grownup path.

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#92: November 25, 2021, 08:26:27 PM
Thanks JB, SS, Curiosity, and UM for your Ding, Ding, Ding Winner GIF!

I had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday with my friends and feel good about where I am at.   Received a text from my youngest daughter letting me know how much she missed me.   Definitely a different Thanksgiving Holiday away from my kids but I am ok and at peace. 

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