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My Story Re: Love & Hate
#90: November 24, 2021, 05:34:41 AM
Thank you everyone, great comments. And this is not my "thread," its "our" thread!  ;)

I completely agree that the typically "replay" component (which my wife also absolutely has) is the reversion to youth, escape from responsibility, trying to recapture a false sense of "freedom" from youth, etc. I want to clarify that past that I also realized she is a "free spirit" as a shorthand, and neither of us would naturally have decided to "marry."
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Meets OM Jan '17 and acts "in love," admits "in love" Jun '18, asks for divorce Jul '18

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Re: Love & Hate
#91: November 24, 2021, 06:07:15 PM
I want to clarify that past that I also realized she is a "free spirit" as a shorthand, and neither of us would naturally have decided to "marry."

Hi Marvin,

My wife is also a free spirit while I am a planner and more practical nature.   For the first 15 years of our marriage, we complemented each other and things seem to work.   When her MLC occurred, I could see her need to be free of her current life which includes me.   Not sure in my M  if the free spirit vs planner nature was the critical issue but it does give me things to ponder.   Thanks for sharing your insights.

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