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#20: August 14, 2021, 10:36:18 AM
School just started on Monday but I swear it feels like we have been in session for 2 weeks instead of 1.  I'm not sure why the week felt so very long lol.

S loves his firefighter internship!

A little bit of interaction with xH this week.  All of it to do with our entangled lives due to children.

Tuesday night, xH called me as I was leaving work to talk about things to do with S16.  We ended up with a 25 minute call, but stayed on the topic of S.  He was calling to let me know that he had gotten S's driving test scheduled for the day after his last drive with the instructor.  S had his first drive last Friday night and xH shared that the instructor said that S is pretty much ready, even without the next 2 drive times, so that was good to hear that we have done well with him.  Instructor said to xH that he had asked S how much interstate time he had before taking him on the interstate and S laughed and told him that he was well seasoned in that area.  I am very grateful to xH for taking on getting the drives scheduled for S while we were away in Washington, and I have told him that I am grateful for his help with this matter.

xH asked about S's internship and expressed that he was sad that S hadn't really shared any information with him about it when he asked.  I told him that maybe S would open up to him in the future and then joked that it took me acting like I wasn't interested for S to tell me.  xH has to also keep in mind that he had S last week, before school started, so S had learned of the internship, but hadn't been back with xH since he'd actually started the internship.  If they have texted or spoken on the phone, S most likely wouldn't share via that avenue anyway.  S sought me out in my bedroom the one day to talk about it and another day we were in the car on the way back from school so it was fresh on his mind having just come from it. 

Wednesday night, S21 came over and brought steaks to cook us for dinner.  He's been doing a fabulous job cooking for his roommates and wanted to make a meal for us he had learned to cook by watching someone on YouTube.  Unfortunately, I only had olive oil, nonstick pans, and a stove that heated differently then his own.  Between that, and S's realization that he bought a different selection of meat than the last time, S was disappointed in the end results.  D, S16 and I thought it tasted good, but S21 said that it wasn't up to par with what he had done before.  He said that we will have to have a re-do and come to his house for the great steaks versus just good lol.  It was a lovely evening regardless.  All 4 of us were in the kitchen together and it was just such great together time.  While S cooked the steaks, impressing me with all his fresh ingredients he was using to mix with the trimmings, I sauteed some zucchini squash and made some mashed potatoes with cheddar, bacon and chives.  D was at the sink washing a load of dishes and chatting away with S.  S16 hung out for a while, then disappeared to his room as oft teenagers his age do, but appeared again magically when the food was ready!

In the midst of everything the doorbell rang, which D and S21 were impressed that I even heard with the conversation and our background tunes.  I thought it might be the neighbor who has been doing some landscape things for me in my backyard, but to my surprise xH was standing there.  He had a rifle case and a couple cases of bullets.  He said he had been texting with S21 but that S hadn't answered his last query about dropping off the rifle to him so that he could practice at the range for hunting so he figured that he would just swing by.  Apparently S21 had said that he was at my place.  S21 came to the door and collected his things and set them aside to take with him when he left later.  Then S21 excused himself to get back to the steaks, which he'd left cooking in the kitchen.  I did not feel the need to invite xH in and he left, with his mission to deliver the rifle accomplished.

Yesterday, I needed to find a ride for S from school because I had already been late to work taking him and D had to work in the afternoon so it was looking like I would need to leave work yet again to go back and pick him up, so instead, I sent out a text thread to xH, 2 of my B's, SIL, nephew20 and S21 asking if there was anyone available to pick him up for me.  xH was the first one to volunteer, and then SIL followed.  I texted SIL directly and let her know that the other number that picked up was xH because I knew she didn't have his number in her phone and that if that fell through I would let her know.  xH did pick up S and hopefully they were able to have a more in depth conversation on their ride back to xH dropping S off at my house.  I don't know.

Today has been lovely just having a bit of a lie in this morning.  I am about to get up and get on with my day.  The lawn needs mowed again and if the neighbor hasn't been over yet to do it, I will take that on again.  I rescued some geraniums from my M's old house that she had potted and was given the heads up by SD's adopted daughter when she was over there a couple days ago that I should come on a rescue mission before the cleaners got there and the new tenants would be showing up.  I watered them really well, and trimmed off all the dead leaves and foliage and they are jumping back to life very well and adding some nice color to my back yard.  I hadn't had a chance to plant any of my own, so it's nice to have those.  M and I have texted lightly throughout the week, but she hasn't shared anything more of her plans.  She found one of S's favorite shirts that he accidentally left behind and mailed that out and then sent me a funny video that my Step Sister she's living with had shared with her.  Earlier this week she posted to a text thread between her and myself and my 4 brothers with pictures of the wheat fields and how the farmers are about to harvest them.  I'm the only one that responded to that text.   :-\

Alright, I'm anxious to get up and moving and feeling a bit too lazy.  Have a great Saturday everyone.
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#21: August 16, 2021, 06:21:23 PM
Tuesday night, xH called me as I was leaving work to talk about things to do with S16.  We ended up with a 25 minute call, but stayed on the topic of S.  He was calling to let me know that he had gotten S's driving test scheduled for the day after his last drive with the instructor.  S had his first drive last Friday night and xH shared that the instructor said that S is pretty much ready, even without the next 2 drive times, so that was good to hear that we have done well with him.  Instructor said to xH that he had asked S how much interstate time he had before taking him on the interstate and S laughed and told him that he was well seasoned in that area.  I am very grateful to xH for taking on getting the drives scheduled for S while we were away in Washington, and I have told him that I am grateful for his help with this matter.

Hi FW,

My W have also been very helpful with my kids over the past couple of weeks which has been so refreshing.   Glad that your XH was able to help and appears to be making your kids a priority in his life.   

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#22: August 16, 2021, 07:29:11 PM
Hi FaithWalker,
your updates make me smile.  I love your details so full of real life, thank you for your sunshine.

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#23: August 19, 2021, 09:23:23 PM
Thank you HF and 5H

Tomorrow is Friday and I'm looking forward to the end of the week.  Thankfully work has leveled out some and I should be able to stay at my 40 hours this week, although the little bit of overtime has been nice.

Tonight was Bible Study.  I hadn't been participating in a while and we started a new book tonight.  It's called Forward by Dr. David Jeremiah.  Seems pretty appropriate for an LBS.   ;D

M has settled down some for the time being.  We talked earlier in the week and she and SD and SS were having a quiet house as the SS's hubby took the 5 kids on a vacation to the coast.

Today my neighbor sent a text letting me know that he is being called back to work in Alaska and is no longer interested in buying and fixing up my older vehicle.  And now he wants to be paid for the work he did in my yard.  This is a tough blow and coming up with that extra money was not what I needed right now.  Hopefully I can get photos of the vehicle posted and an offer on it soon.  I need to get it taken off my hands for sure, and the sooner the better, because then I can use some of that money to pay him, rather than have it come out of my paycheck.  So bummed.

We've been getting some rainy weather the last few days.  It has cooled things down.  We had been having 99-104F temps.  Today as I was driving to work my temp said 58F.  They had just recently re-opened the interstate, but as the rain started to flow, they opted to shut it back down because that burn scar is still very precarious.  I was supposed to drive about an hour to meet my friend who was going to drive about an hour and a half my way to meet to go paddle boarding Saturday, but her route is the route that now everyone has to take, so I'm not sure she wants to be on that road with heavier traffic being re-routed that way.  Plus the weather may not be so great Saturday, so we will see what happens.

S had his 2nd drive session Tuesday and next week is his final session and then his driving test.  He went to his F's last night, so that has taken some pressure off of me to give him rides to and from school.  He will be back Sunday night.

That's pretty much the update on me right now.
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#24: August 22, 2021, 02:34:08 PM
Hi FW,

Glad to hear you are involved again with your Bible Study and David Jeremiah is such a spiritual thought leader.   I have heard him speak at  Men's conference before and really enjoyed his teaching.   Good luck as you get settled back into school and glad to hear your M has settled down for now.

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#25: August 27, 2021, 07:49:07 PM
Good evening everyone.  Another week down.  S passed his driving test Thursday, but the whole licensing thing is so weird now.  His Dad had to upload all the documents online instead of going to the DMV with S and then they said it would take a day to process.  It came back as processed, waiting to mail.  S then had to log into an app and create an account and then scan the back of his permit, then he took a photo of himself with his phone for his DL and then his permit on the app changed into a DL.  Craziness.  He will then get his license in the mail. 

S16 is very excited to drive and already has a job lead he is going to pursue.  So many businesses around here are hurting for workers.

This week D19 started at university.  It's been good so far, although she had some trouble with commuter parking the first day and was late to several of her classes.  She has 2 different campuses that she has classes at, the university and the community college campus.  Only 1 of her 4 books arrived in time, so she ended up ordering the other 3 on Amazon and now has to figure out how to cancel the others from the university bookstore.  And she has to take a Covid test.  I think she got that done today but she left for work before I got home so I haven't had a chance to talk to her.  She doesn't have any symptoms, it's just required.  They will have random tests at points throughout the semester too.

We all had dinner together at S21's house last night and he made the most fabulous Ribeye steaks I've ever had.  Oh my goodness they were amazing.  Then we watched the Snake Eyes Movie together and ate cheesecake in celebration of S16 passing his driving test.  It was a nice night.

Not much else to update on me.  Nothing exciting lol.  Just working, coming home with dinner or cooking dinner each night, watching a little tv and then crashing into bed.  Tonight I mowed the lawn and then cracked open a cold Root Beer lol.  My life is so exciting.  Haha.
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#26: August 28, 2021, 07:13:34 AM
It all sounds lovely Faith. Big milestones for the kids DL and college amid the continuing COVID madness. It really is the small stuff that counts.
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#27: August 28, 2021, 03:29:15 PM
Thanks DF.  It IS lovely, you are right.

Today I dropped S off at xH's house to pick up D's car to drive back for her.  She received a hand-me-down car from a deceased relative that is newer than the one xH and I bought for her together.  S will be driving her old car now.   xH wasn't there, he had plans to leave town and visit his parents, so he left the keys on a desk inside the door. S let himself in with the hide-a-key.  It was his first solo flight, and he wasn't too far behind me getting home.  xH and I have had quite a bit of contact with S's DL stuff, but I expect now that he has his DL, there won't be much contact.  S will drive himself over to xH's house now when it's time to visit.

It feels so strange to have my youngest have his DL.  Another stage has passed.
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#28: August 29, 2021, 02:02:07 AM
FW, thanks for your updates. Would you mind sharing the recipie he used for  the ribeye steaks? And fixings?
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#29: August 29, 2021, 04:57:47 PM
Not much else to update on me.  Nothing exciting lol.  Just working, coming home with dinner or cooking dinner each night, watching a little tv and then crashing into bed.  Tonight I mowed the lawn and then cracked open a cold Root Beer lol.  My life is so exciting.  Haha.

Hi FW,

Glad to hear that son passed his driving test and that things are going with you and your kids.   As for excitement, sometimes having a peaceful time of work, dinner, and some time to relax is enough.  After all the craziness in the past year, the past month for me has been uneventful which has been nice for a change.

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