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#20: October 28, 2021, 06:50:57 AM
Hi UrsaMajor,

Well I called my attorney's office to execute Order 66 and something is wrong with Commander Cody. The receptionist took my message after being a bit vague on Commander Cody's whereabouts. Afterwards she gave me the name of another clone trooper who will be contacting me. Unbelievable. I swear this sh!te worked for Darth Sidious.

This is only a 2 lawyer practice and this new name is not one of the partners so something has happened to my attorney. So new clone trooper eyes is maybe not a bad thing as I just need the motion filed against this criminal. Maybe this one will not be afraid of women. IDK....

We are now 7 months past the home sale deadline date and I really was in no rush to force the sale because I was enjoying time with my son's. However, she locked them down again so now she will pay. Oh I mean that with agape of course.

LOL that is so true about tomorrows class. This mornings class has already come and gone. This is a popular one so it's a bit more crowded. It's nice to get the workout out of the way first thing in the morning.

Then again it's also nice next week to go after work in the afternoon after sitting around all day. My 4 year gym anniversary will be in February and I am closing in on 700 classes. The pandemic really fouled me up. I should have hit 1,000 in February.

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#21: October 28, 2021, 07:35:08 AM
S14 and I joined a gym together mid-October and he seems pretty dedicated to 2x per week so far.... He wants to loose weight and get fit. Actually, I bribed him and said that if he gets from 25% to 18% Body Fat, I'd get hm the GoPro he's been after... whatever works... xW doesn't really seem to care because she feeds them instant noodles and such... She sees he's overweight but then says it's up to him to do something about it... ::) ..... so we'll see tonight is gym night... No classes just cardio and weights...
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#22: October 28, 2021, 08:42:43 AM
Glad to hear you have prodded the legal stormtroopers about the house sale, Watcher.
Not bc of your version of agape ha ha
But bc you deserve a life free of BS moves, a home of your own, even perhaps a smiley nice woman to hang out with in front of your own fire who can coo at your manly runner’s legs :)
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#23: October 29, 2021, 07:39:48 PM
Well, you seem to have manifested a new attorney Watcher. Wishing you good luck with your new barrister.
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#24: October 30, 2021, 06:42:39 AM
Hi UrsaMajor, Treasur, Dumbfounded.

My coworker commented yesterday that I finally wasn't wearing shorts, lol. I start wearing shorts in April and I had to breakdown yesterday and wear jeans because it was cold and it's usually a bit more colder in NYC on a damp day.

This morning I had to wear jeans again as I got my manly on at Home Depot. You know I can pull off the Fall manly look, lol. I can already pull off the running manly look and gym manly look. However, I need new sneakers for kickboxing because my current pair does not match my outfits and therefore its diminishing my manly gym gains which probably is all in my head, hahaha.

Kickboxing sneakers get dirty and no self respecting runner would ever use their precious running shoes to kickbox. Oh my Brooks and Hoka One are on display as if they are sitting in a museum. So I will have to find some Asics that are colorful because my current grey pair of New Balance are not working.

I was reading that I probably developed the issue in the ball of my foot from poorly cushioned shoes and that pair had been around for awhile to use while kickboxing.

I haven't been to Home Depot in years and I was so lost. However, I think I was able to blend in and look the manly part which is a requirement at Home Depot. I don't believe I was identified as an LBS but one can never be too careful.

Oh I wear shorts all year long. I don't care if it's 5 degrees out. If I'm going to the gym then I'm wearing shorts.

Yes I'm looking forward to having my own house and I just wish this divorce process wasn't so long. The sale of the house, a potential CS issue and the pension division seem like it's all going to take years to resolve.

So I was walking around Home Depot ,all exaggerated btw, in my Fall attire manliness, hahaha. Although, I wasn't wearing boots. See that. Another shoe issue. Maybe my manliness is a bit sloppy at the moment as I transition to wearing more clothes. I have to check the condition of my boots since it's been awhile.

Yesterday I received my email code to re enter the Berlin Marathon for 2022. There will be no excuses next year. NYC Marathon is being run next weekend as I see the signage on the roadways. So I just have to wait a bit longer since I passed on both this year. Hopefully I win the London lottery in February to make it a trifecta next year.

S18 has his blood work appointment next Friday and I cannot believe that I have to breakdown and text him on Monday to remind him. Hopefully he will keep it since he only has November left for treatment and then he is done.

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#25: October 30, 2021, 06:51:39 AM
You ARE funny, Watcher. You made me giggle  :)
I’m almost imagining a whole Watcher Manly range of dolls now....what’s next?
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#26: November 02, 2021, 09:22:42 PM
So yesterday I texted S18 to remind him about his upcoming 2 appointments. The dermatologist changed his appointment time and I knew he would not be able to attend since it conflicted with school.

He replied that he couldn't attend that time slot so I sent him their phone number and told him to reschedule his own appointment.

Today he texted me to let me know that he scheduled his new appointment and wanted to know if it worked for me. (His mother probably scheduled it for him).

I last heard from her on Sept 2nd and S18 on Oct 6th. She is blocked so I won't hear from her, however he responded to my text so she is probably thawing now.

His first appointment is on Friday but I haven't even made arrangements with him as I kept it short.
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#27: November 03, 2021, 03:03:48 AM
Well, IMHO that is a good sign (that S18 rescheduled the appointment) at least... Whether he or Mommy-Dearest did it is kind of irrelevant in reality as long as it is rescheduled... And the fact that he asked you if you could make that is also positive... Whether she is thawing or not doesn't matter a hill of beans as long as HE is able to communicate with you... and maybe even get out of the house again...

Now, if SHE would just get out of the house....
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#28: November 03, 2021, 08:00:26 AM
Hi UrsaMajor,

I've been working this miserable overnight shift this week so I was able to prepare legal letters yesterday. Overnights are really for young people as it really disrupts one's patterns.

The other day I received the new mortgage statement and the monthly bill increased due to elevated real estate taxes. I think that lifetime alimony Governor bastard Phil Murphy is going to pull out a close win in NJ. How people could continue to vote for more social programs is beyond me. Oh I got sidetracked.  ::) That Wall Street prick.

Anyway the mortgage is now more than her support allotment. You know , her lottery winnings. So she now owes me money each month. Well we know it doesn't work that way, LMAO. Little ol' her has to pay big ol' me. Yea good luck with that one in socialist New Jersey.

People really like paying more taxes in NJ. Oh yes and bring us some more huddled masses yearning for some more entitled freebies !

Ok, so I have outlined three issues for Darth No Balls and his emasculated law practice. 1) Filing a motion to sell the home. 2) petitioning the court to end child support. (oh I know, how dare a man). 3) demanding payment from the defendant for my now overpayment of support.

Meanwhile, I am looking for a female attorney to bring this home because ,we all know, some male lawyers have no balls and, most likely, a pair will be found in a female's purse.

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#29: November 03, 2021, 11:56:01 PM
I look at all the contributors who have obstructed this divorce. Yes the Governor is a contributor. He closed the Courts and protected her. My attorney was also complicit in that obstruction for always refusing to file any motion against her. The end result was a 18 month divorce.

Now they have me on the hook paying alimony and child support. Meanwhile no one will help me bring this divorce process to a conclusion. I asked my attorney in May to file the motion to sell the house and he instructed me to talk to her first so we wouldn't appear to be bullies.

Yes I talked to her and then I gave up. December will be the 1 year anniversary of the divorce being final. That's 30 months since I filed for divorce and it's unbelievable that I still have this house.

It really is like fighting with both hands tied behind your back. I used to think she was dragging this out. However, no one will go after her so is she really dragging things out. I don't think so anymore.

She is non compliant but no one will make her comply. I have a lawyer who doesn't want anymore money apparently. He has fought me every step of the way.

He didn't get me divorced. He waited until she was ready to divorce me. That's how that went down. If she hadn't signed that MSA in Sept 2020 we would still be waiting for her decision.

That's exactly what is transpiring with this house. He is waiting for her to tap out again at my expense.

On Friday I'm informing the court that I have an attorney who refuses to enforce the MSA. This is really a strange situation where my attorney is more of an issue than her. Maybe he wants me to replace him and this is his endgame. Maybe he needs me to tap him out.

I really don't understand why this is so complicated. Is this the first xW in history being asked to sell the marital home ?

I have already been reviewing candidates for his replacement and will schedule appointments to see how they would handle this situation ?

I think there are different stages of LBS fog. It's hard to believe there was a 48 month chapter prior to this 30 month divorce chapter.

When I received that Court summons for child support in 2019 I immediately knew I had to file for divorce. The fog lifted.

When S18 balked on his driving test in September it lifted again and I instantaneously knew I had to sell this house immediately.

Now I just know the attorney needs to be replaced.
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