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My Story Rebuilding Rebuilding after Hurricane MLC
#150: August 06, 2021, 03:39:24 AM
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If I had to do my LBShood again (God forbid), I would have thrown up my boundaries against H’s disrespectful behaviour, gotten serious counselling to help me gain some mental equilibrium, and left my MLCer H to his crisis much, much earlier.

Wish I could have taken this advise sooner. It can take a while to get there, but it truly is the best advise!!!
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H-54 W-58  M 7/6/91 Kids d-30 s-28 d-14 (dies 2009)
2013- moments of disconnect start
Aug 2016 promotion requires travel   
Oct 2017-total disconnect
Jan 2018- moved out H
Mar 2018- BD1 found old phone 3 EA ‘17-H in therapy
EA ow1-49,  EA-ow2 57, (EA- ow3-58 not reciprocated)
Sept ‘18 -2nd Home in new state H new job
Oct 2018-H moves home
Oct 2020 BD2 does not return home from B trip
Nov 2020 H move to 2nd home in other state OW4
Div filed-Dec ‘20   Div final-Feb ‘21
Oct 2021- XH moves in OW4
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Rebuilding after Hurricane MLC
#151: August 06, 2021, 04:00:36 AM
Hi Acorn!

Guess what?



It's time for a new thread!
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Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 14, D - 10
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BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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Rebuilding after Hurricane MLC
#152: August 06, 2021, 11:29:29 AM
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If I had to do my LBShood again (God forbid), I would have thrown up my boundaries against H’s disrespectful behaviour, gotten serious counselling to help me gain some mental equilibrium, and left my MLCer H to his crisis much, much earlier.

Wish I could have taken this advise sooner. It can take a while to get there, but it truly is the best advise!!!

You can me both, Torn.  What’s done is done.  ‘Learn from the past and march forward’ is my motto! 

Oops, the Big Bear caught me! 

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H never left home.

 

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