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#150: April 21, 2021, 02:02:02 PM
Thank You Ursa!  Too true!

PJ-You are right and I’m glad several of you reiterate that that is a red flag.  When they try to come back it brings a lot of emotions with it.  Way less than the first time, but still.  Sometimes thoughts get lost in all of it.

I know this is obvious, but I wanted to say it: be kind to yourself. Be permissive to yourself. Let yourself feel whatever comes up, and yes I can’t even imagine all the things that may come up. Keep the number one priority you and your kids, and just leave the space for your H to step up if he is ready, willing and able.

Take lots of emotional time and space as you navigate this.
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Re: My husband wants to work things out....
#151: April 22, 2021, 02:47:40 AM
I know this is obvious, but I wanted to say it: be kind to yourself. Be permissive to yourself. Let yourself feel whatever comes up, and yes I can’t even imagine all the things that may come up. Keep the number one priority you and your kids, and just leave the space for your H to step up if he is ready, willing and able.

Take lots of emotional time and space as you navigate this.

And, while you are at it..... It's time for a new thread.....



New thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11762.0
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