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My Story Towards the place where all loose ends go
OP: February 18, 2021, 06:46:44 AM
Previous thread:

https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11689.msg778904#new

I hate being sick, it's like a giant spotlight aimed right at all the fears and failures, and really feels like walking through quicksand.
I'm also really sensitive to meds, so the only way I can describe the feeling is like there's a constant heartbeat in my right ear and a powerful magnet inside the center of my forehead pulling my brain involuntarily forward.  ::)
I've been watching nostalgic movies in the middle of the night. Over the Edge. Fast Times at Ridgemont High. The Outsiders. I saw Footloose in the theater with my friend about 3 weeks before she died and just watched it again for the first time since. 
Last night was Valley Girl.  I forgot what a fun soundtrack that was. 

I'm not sure where this new thread will go, all I know is I hope there's cake.  ;)
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Towards the places where all loose ends go
#1: February 18, 2021, 07:05:33 AM
Ah, Nas and cake....who needs more?  :)
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#2: February 18, 2021, 07:39:37 AM
As you wish.....



 ;D ;D ;D

I hope that you are feeling better soon!
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Re: Towards the place where all loose ends go
#3: February 18, 2021, 10:43:52 AM
Yes, cake! I bought carrots yesterday to make carrot cake for the snow day. Need to get on it.
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Re: Towards the place where all loose ends go
#4: February 18, 2021, 11:21:37 AM
Nas maybe there's something in the air, I just watched The Outsiders myself for the hundredth time.  One of my favorites.

Saturday Night Fever or Grease may be next.  Or 9 to 5!   Just so I can sing along.  ;D

I hope you feel better, Nas.

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#5: February 18, 2021, 01:37:07 PM
Nas -
Following along on your journey.
Hope that you feel better soon, and enjoy those old movies.

Why did you choose this title for your new thread?  Just curious...
And yes, more cake please!

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#6: February 18, 2021, 02:18:50 PM



Why did you choose this title for your new thread?  Just curious...




I chose it for several reasons, but it comes from an (imo) underrated Duran Duran song called Before the Rain, which is about a man haunted by guilt and facing his demons. The full line is: “And so we travel and we unravel towards the place where all loose ends go…”
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Re: Towards the place where all loose ends go
#7: February 18, 2021, 03:02:02 PM



Why did you choose this title for your new thread?  Just curious...




I chose it for several reasons, but it comes from an (imo) underrated Duran Duran song called Before the Rain, which is about a man haunted by guilt and facing his demons. The full line is: “And so we travel and we unravel towards the place where all loose ends go…”


Nas, you had me at Duran Duran... 8)
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#8: February 18, 2021, 03:32:13 PM
Then it seems like a perfect name.
I love Duran Duran and H and I used to dance and sing to them in the 80’s or 90’s.
I don’t recall that song, but will look it up.
The words you quoted are great!
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Re: Towards the place where all loose ends go
#9: February 19, 2021, 04:09:15 PM
Joining your new thread, Nas. Hope you might begin to feel better soon.x
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