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My Story Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#10: February 24, 2021, 06:54:24 AM
Attaching..

Heck yes..Doesn’t everyone want a comprehensive, guided tour of their insides????? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#11: February 26, 2021, 03:11:39 AM
This goes under the category "Life is what happens while you are busy making plans.... "

I was in the middle of our monthly Division conference, which is kind of important, by Video Conference with 70 other people. My cell rings (or vibrates in this case) and it was R telling me that, while riding her bicycle home, she was run into by another bicyclist and her wrist was broken and could I please come and get her bike because the ambulance was on the way...

<Adrenalin rush - ACTIVATE!>

Grabbed my car keys and the trailer hitch mounted bike rack out of the shed (she has an E-Bike and I know there was NO way in Hades I was going to be able to lift it onto the Roof carrier which was the other option) and hightail it over to where she was. I had a vague idea but I was right and got there WAY before the police or the ambulance.... Yes, it was broken all right because a wrist is NOT supposed to look like a "Z."

Long story short, I got her bike mounted up, the ambulance came and took her to the local hospital where they proceeded to straighten the bone (she actually broke the Spica just below the wrist (that is one of the 2 bones in the lower arm between the elbow and the wrist) but did not give her anything sufficient for the pain  :o  I mean, I was there when they did the same for S13 last winter when he broke both the elle and the spica (I am sure someone with more medical knowledge will say what the correct names/spelling is  - I am a rocket scientist, NOT an MD) and they knocked him out completely...

R will have to have surgery which is now planned for Monday since there was NO way in Hades she was going to let those clowns at the local Clinic operate on her after the massive cock-ups (one after the other) in the ER... 30 minutes before anyone even said "Hello"after coming in in an ambulance, not once did anyone ask about pain relief, if she needed to use the loo, needed a drink... Nothing... It sounded like being in a battlefield Triage center and not in one of the biggest hospitals in the area... Complete Chaos...

So, other than that little incident Mrs. Lincoln, how WAS the play?

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Re: Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#12: February 26, 2021, 04:34:10 AM
Ouch! I hope R has a speedy recovery and finds an empathetic PT who doesn´t torture her with the range of motion exercises.

As for your inwards, hope you got the photo album:)
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#13: February 26, 2021, 05:25:15 AM
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since there was NO way in Hades she was going to let those clowns at the local Clinic operate on her after the massive cock-ups (one after the other) in the ER... 30 minutes before anyone even said "Hello"after coming in in an ambulance, not once did anyone ask about pain relief, if she needed to use the loo, needed a drink... Nothing... It sounded like being in a battlefield Triage center and not in one of the biggest hospitals in the area... Complete Chaos...

Years ago, I took a teacher who broke his upper arm during our annual end of the year softball game, to a series of hospitals and clinics. It was first diagnosed as a sprain, the hours later in a occupational clinic, it was determined to be a break. Then at the hospital, the determined it was a break as well. They didn't trust the first set of x-rays. While we sat in the waiting room, another patient in a wheelchair just fell over plat onto the floor. Just laid their out cold. I asked, "Are you okay? " No response. My friends told me, "Leave her alone, you are not a doctor. " I turned to my friends and said, "I know I'm not a doctor, if I was" pointing at my friend with the broken arm, "we wouldn't be here right now."  So I go up to the receptionist and tell her about the patient on the floor. She looks up at me, "We will get to her when we are ready." This was one of the top rated hospitals in the state. Hmmmm....medical care at its finest.

I hope all is well and have a quiet and restful weekend,

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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#14: February 26, 2021, 05:55:48 AM
Sorry to hear about R's accident and hope she gets the care she needs, UM. I will say though....bc it takes an LBS a while to remember what normal chaps do lol....I did think how nice it was to see a man respond to that kind of situation in a lovely normal way as opposed to an MLC way  :)
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#15: February 26, 2021, 07:12:28 AM
Sorry to hear about R's accident and hope she gets the care she needs, UM. I will say though....bc it takes an LBS a while to remember what normal chaps do lol....I did think how nice it was to see a man respond to that kind of situation in a lovely normal way as opposed to an MLC way  :)

What, you mean to ignore her, run away, or tell her it must have been her fault so she could deal with it on her own?



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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#16: February 26, 2021, 09:49:45 AM
What, you mean to ignore her, run away, or tell her it must have been her fault so she could deal with it on her own?
If I drank coffee, I'd have spit it all over my keyboard!  Priceless.

I hope Rs arm heals well and quickly. So nice that she had you to call, knew she could trust you to help, and that you were able to get there in time.
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#17: February 26, 2021, 10:28:04 AM
Tagging along.

Sorry to read about R's mishap. But like Treasur, I was a little misty that R had her person to call and he dropped everything and came out and helped her without all the complaining and drama.  I hope R is able to get some compassionate medical care in the future.

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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#18: February 26, 2021, 12:46:57 PM
UM - Your ultrasound description had me in tears...  And your comments were the coup-de-gras1...

I am sorry about R's wrist.  I also am so glad that you were there for her, and that she had you.  You truly deserve someone after all you've been through. 

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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#19: February 26, 2021, 12:48:50 PM
Well there is that saying... "it's what's inside that really counts!" Sounds like you excel at that, but I think most of us here already knew that  :)
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