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My Story Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#30: March 02, 2021, 11:44:35 PM
Quote from: Treasur on March 02, 2021, 12:38:50 PM
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You can amuse her with tales of your perfectly placed organs during her recovery.

This made me laugh out loud, DF  :)
But will UM be able to find the right kind of gif for this....... ;D

How about this one?


Well, R may not be home as soon as we thought... The hospital has laid 2 drainage catheters in her arm and she has significant pain. One problem is that her body physically does not metabolize pain medication well. Instead it is in and out with very little effect. At the ER, they gave her a dose of an opiate (Stupid people did not write down what it was - only that it was 6.5 mg but the Head Doctor followed it up and found out what it was) that should have had her looking at the pretty lights in La La Land and she was fully functional and still in pain...

She will get what is called a Pain Catheter today where there is a constant flow of pain meds but that can NOT be used outside the hospital (she had the same thing when she had her shoulder OP last year and it worked well) so we will see.....

I talked to her this morning and she was REALLY tired/wiped out because she was only able to get 3-4 hours light sleep due to the pain last night...   :(
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#31: March 02, 2021, 11:46:39 PM
So sorry to hear that R is not in a good place, and I hope that this improves soon.
But much respect for the gif, UM - I should have known better  :) ;D
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#32: March 03, 2021, 12:14:19 AM
Quote from: Treasur on March 02, 2021, 11:46:39 PM
So sorry to hear that R is not in a good place, and I hope that this improves soon.
But much respect for the gif, UM - I should have known better  :) ;D
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I had another one that was better but it was just a tad "risque" in a Virtual Reality sort of way (liquid Metal art) and I didn't want to offend anyone so ...
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#33: March 03, 2021, 11:00:17 AM
How awful for R.  I will add her to my prayers - the Lord will know who I am taking about. 
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#34: March 03, 2021, 04:16:00 PM
UM - Sorry to hear about R's pain.
The catheters are wonderful and they do make those that you can take home - at least in the US.
They're called On-Q and such. 
Is there a specific pain team who would be able to help her with that?? Or is that who's handling the one in the hospital?
I'd love her to have the same pain relief at home as in the hospital...

Sending hugs and wishes for quick and pain relief for R.

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#35: March 25, 2021, 07:29:02 AM
Well, Tuesday, S13 became S14....

Unfortunately, since my job has decided to sentence me to 2 weeks of an online training form 08:30-14:30 (IN FREAKING CANADA! Meaning 13:30-19:30 where I am  ::) I know, I should be happy to be working in the pandemic but for crying out loud... come on.... ), and since Tuesday was a "school day" we will have a Corona-approved (read "small") party on Saturday. He wanted and got a PC for his birthday (or rather he got the PARTS for a PC and we have taken the last 4 days to build it.

He went to xW's Tuesday afternoon so he could celebrate his B-Day with mom and D10 and then came back yesterday.

We got it up and running today so he is happy as a clam....

By the way, who has seen the movie "Lion" about the boy in India who gets separated from his family, is adopted by a couple in Australia, and then, 25 years later, embarks on a search for his mother?  SERIOUSLY depressing except for the fact that it does happy end and is based on a true story...
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#36: March 25, 2021, 07:40:36 AM
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By the way, who has seen the movie "Lion" about the boy in India who gets separated from his family, is adopted by a couple in Australia, and then, 25 years later, embarks on a search for his mother?  SERIOUSLY depressing except for the fact that it does happy end and is based on a true story...

I thought it was an awesome movie. Very sad, but a very good movie and high recommend it.

Happy birthday to son 14!

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#37: March 25, 2021, 07:45:47 AM
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SERIOUSLY depressing

Seriously depressing is "Dear Zachary: a letter to a son about his father". That documentary made both my wife and I cry- just like Lion, it is a true story.

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#38: March 25, 2021, 07:47:41 AM
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By the way, who has seen the movie "Lion" about the boy in India who gets separated from his family, is adopted by a couple in Australia, and then, 25 years later, embarks on a search for his mother?  SERIOUSLY depressing except for the fact that it does happy end and is based on a true story...

I thought it was an awesome movie. Very sad, but a very good movie and high recommend it.

Happy birthday to son 14!

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R thought I needed to see it as I was adopted (at birth) and have NO real desire or need to search out my biological genetic contributors...  ::)  I have never seen a need for it but she and others seem to think there is some sort of hidden need there that I am supressing.... For me, it is really simple. Unlike the boy in the movie, I have NO memories at all having been taken from my birth mother at birth and going with my parents when I was 3 DAYS old... so I only know (and care about) my REAL parents and they are the ones (OK, my mom) that raised me...
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#39: March 25, 2021, 10:29:42 AM
Thanks for the warning UM.

I just finished reading Radium Girls. I highly suggest that, if you have a strong desire to read it, you wait until the pandemic is over and long forgotten because THAT is some seriously depressing stuff.  Also a true story. 

Happy Birthday S!!  Let there be cake!! 
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