Welcome to the Board
You are in a good place.
Your H/W is on his/her own journey.
You can not do anything to control this trip.
Come here and read or vent, we will listen.
Give your H/W space he/she needs to heal himself/herself.
I would not ask him/her anything unless you can have no expectations.
Sometimes asking them questions will be thought of as pressure.
You do not want to do anything that can be thought of by your H/W as controlling or pressure.
Your need to start working on you.
There is nothing that you can do to help your H/W.
He/She has given you a gift.
It is time!!
Use the time wisely to make yourself a better person.
Look in the mirror to see what it is that you can improve.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
GAL.
Read some books on depression. Both for yourself! And for H/W.
Believe none of what he/she says and 50% of what he/she does.
Read the resources from this site.
The links that are in my signature.
Detach. - The single most important thing you can do
The detach link and HB's 6 stages of MLC(rewritten from Jim Conway) located in the resources above.
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4.msg380#msg380Developing Detachment
http://jamesjmessina.com/toolsforcontrolissues/developdetachment.htmlhttp://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_detach.htmlhttp://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/RCR has asked everyone to keep to one thread until that thread is 150 posts
Keep posting and asking questions and we will try to answer them.
Knowledge is Power - Sir Francis Bacon