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My Story Re: Stopping the insanity
#150: October 18, 2021, 07:05:49 PM
Yea, I know my therapist thinks of it as depression and identity / trauma crisis. MLC has so many layers. It would take someone to talk to recovery stories like stayed and her husband. Someone who was on sites like these and reached out to couples. Even a start on looking into this and giving it some validity. It’s like the hidden illness that your ashamed to have or be a victim of.

FWIW the therapists I have talked to in various contexts who are aware of the phenomenon completely "get it" but talk about it in terms of the underlying elements and various different psychological dynamics (like disassociation, anxiety, depression). It doesn't mean its not "known" rather its not talked about in colloquial terms that we do here.
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No Kids, 23 years at BD1 (4 years), married 21
First signs of MLC Jan '15
BD 1 Jan '17, BD 2 Mar, Separated Apr, BD 3 May,BD 4 Jun '18
First Sign of Waking up-Dec '17, First Cycle out of MLC Mar '18-Jun ‘18, Second cycle Jul '18-??
Meets OM Jan '17 and acts "in love," admits "in love" Jun '18, asks for divorce Jul '18

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Re: Stopping the insanity
#151: October 18, 2021, 08:48:35 PM
Time for a new thread, Torn.   :)

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« Last Edit: October 19, 2021, 12:52:19 AM by UrsaMajor »
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."


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