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tle

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#40: September 18, 2021, 03:20:23 PM
As I was laying in bed this morning one of the first thoughts I had was getting on here and updating my thread. I was thinking not much has changed with my H. He typically texts me on Tuesdays and asks how I'm doing. I'll get spurts where it is up to 5 or 6 days of the week but for the most part Tuesday is text day. At the beginning of the month I text him about a bill he owes and he responded that he would take care of it but if it wasn't a problem he'd "ride on a minute or two" and some other slang that is very out of character for him and his age. We text back and forth and on the last one he put 😘😘😘. Wasn't sure if it was really meant for me so I just left our conversation there. I haven't heard from him since then, so over 2 weeks and atleast 2 Tuesdays missed. Then all of the sudden my phone went off and it was a text from him...on a Saturday! Asking how I was doing.
After some small talk I asked why he does this. Out of guilt or because he is thinking about me? His response was "Just making sure your ok. I don't want to not be able to talk to you." So still all about him. I'm to the point I'm tired of scraps and trying to guess what he is thinking. I told him that I've had to deal with alot lately and it sucked not having him here with me. That I know he is seeing someone and I wish them the best. That I am ok and I have amazing people in my life that care about me. His response was pretty much...hate that for you and glad you have them.
This may cause the texting to stop, who knows, but I just needed to say my truth. It's like I get emotional when I get his texts, but at the same time I get emotional when he doesn't. Hopefully it will break some kind of cycle we are in and give me peace!
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#41: September 18, 2021, 09:52:57 PM
Haven't had a chance to read all of your thread, tle, but I feel the same way about messages from my W. BD was only 3 months ago and she's living with her sister. We're in our early 50s and it seems like W is reverting to her 20s as well, although I don't really know what she's up to (thankfully). The next text I get will probably be about her finding an attorney (as the previous ones have been), but it still hurts to not get them just the same.

Hugs,

JB
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#42: September 19, 2021, 08:52:22 PM
Thanks JB
It's really so crazy how it's like a switch was flipped and now they are a different person.
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