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My Story Built To Last
#10: August 06, 2021, 07:06:18 PM
Along for the walk, Faith. Thanks for sharing the song!
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"I'm slowly learning to expect nothing and appreciate everything."

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BD #1: 2016 - EA  |  BD #2: 2018 - FA

W moved out - June 2019 | OM#3 - July 2019
W asks for divorce - August 2019 | Divorce final - September 2019 | Moving on

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#11: August 07, 2021, 01:51:21 PM
Wow Faith, those video's were shocking, scary but also fascinating.
Like a bad accident you can't turn away from. Ha ha

I hadn't heard anything about these mudslides on CO.  I have seen plenty of them in CA.

I've been to CO a few times and stayed in Vail once.  It's beautiful country!  Awesome hiking trails.
If I was ever to leave MN, CO would be my choice to live.  The weather is somewhat better than ours, at least in the winter.   I've seen you guys get 2 feet of snow but then the next day it's 65 degrees and everything is melting.
We get 2 feet of snow (which btw is rare) and it's here for the winter.  ;D

Anyway thank you for the video's, very interesting to watch.
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#12: August 07, 2021, 10:05:44 PM
I like how many days of sunshine we have.  I get some seasonal depression, but I think it might be worse if I lived somewhere that had less days of sunshine.  Even when it's snowy and cold, the sun is still shining.   :)
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#13: August 08, 2021, 01:34:44 PM
I need to call my M later after the afternoon nap timeframe to see what is going on.  My B said that she called and talked to him on Friday and is trying to find a way to move back here.  I talked to her on Monday and all was well.  Yikes.

S16 texted me to let me know that he needs to go black pants shopping tonight.  He found out that he did get the firefighter internship.  How exciting.  It sounds like he likes his school schedule.  He starts back tomorrow.
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#14: August 08, 2021, 03:13:11 PM
Hi FW,

Hope all is ok with your M.   This move has to be really hard on her and I imagine her emotions will be up/down with feeling home sick.   Hope she can figure things out and make the best decision for her.   Glad son 16 got the internship and likes his school schedule.   My kids go back this week and both like their schedules for this year.   My kids are both in middle school together this year which will be fun.   

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#15: August 09, 2021, 03:09:41 PM
Somehow I missed your new thread.   Better late than never. 
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Married 1998
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BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

“You've seen my descent, now watch my rising.”
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#16: August 09, 2021, 06:17:18 PM
Hi FW,

Hope all is ok with your M.   This move has to be really hard on her and I imagine her emotions will be up/down with feeling home sick.   Hope she can figure things out and make the best decision for her.   Glad son 16 got the internship and likes his school schedule.   My kids go back this week and both like their schedules for this year.   My kids are both in middle school together this year which will be fun.   

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She definitely is working on a plan to come back.  She says that her H and his D are on board with it and she will make frequent trips out to see him.

Somehow I missed your new thread.   Better late than never. 

Welcome aboard.  Not too late!  You haven't missed much.

Welp, first day of school done and dusted.  Yikes my position was crazy busy.  And that was even with being late due to taking S to school.

Tomorrow D will take him for me and I will shoot away from work long enough to pick him up and bring him home.  We are counting down the days until he can drive himself and D will get the upgrade car from her F's side of the family.
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#17: August 09, 2021, 08:45:06 PM
FW - I'm late to the party but joining your journey. 
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#18: August 10, 2021, 09:58:24 AM
I would not survive in place with no sunshine either.  I am a flip flops kinda gal.

That is shame about your Mom being unhappy.  I hope she is able to come to decision that brings her peace.

School again already? I am not mentally ready for this school year.  Hoping it is a good school year for your and your kids this year.   
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D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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#19: August 10, 2021, 06:22:36 PM
Welcome SB.

Yes, school starts pretty early here, in my opinion.  Last year they pushed it back to the 17th and that was nice.

It is so hazy here right now, air quality is really bad.  I'm hoping it will clear out soon.
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"Don't become a container for bitterness.  It's a toxin that destroys what it's carried in."

 

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