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#80: November 23, 2020, 01:35:40 PM
Hello Snowdrop, not sure if you were still on the boards when I joined in 2016 but it's good to hear an update, regardless.

From a LBS and loving mother viewpoint, I don't see how deep down he can truly be happy when he has left his children and wife in such a way, but that is the conundrum, isn't it?  How they can justify their lives, post bomb drop.

I'm glad you and your kids are doing well and I hope for his sake he does some reflecting and sees that he really did have the world and he threw it away.
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#81: November 23, 2020, 06:07:43 PM
Another 2016 member here and while I don't remember reading your posts Snowdrop, I do appreciate reading updates from veterans. 

Nice to read that you and the kids have come out the other side and are doing well. 
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#82: November 25, 2020, 03:26:35 PM
Snowdrop, I remember you. Thank you for your update. It's good to hear that eventually, we just don't care any more.

Hope you and your kids are safe.
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#83: November 30, 2020, 03:03:47 PM
Also another 2016 member here. Haven't heard from MLCer in over a year, bumped into him a few months back and that is all. MLCer has no contact with his family either, I have decided to slowly distance myself from them as well. Time to move on.

Last I heard, MLCer still a big spender and has no job. I'm doing great, just bought my own home (yay) and have my Christmas holidays planned!
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#84: December 01, 2020, 02:01:11 AM
spock -
Thanks for coming back to update us. 
I didn't know you personally, but seems like you've moved on well.
Congratulations on the house, and enjoy your Christmas plans.

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#85: December 01, 2020, 09:51:58 AM
Hey spock!  Congrats on the new house.  Definitely enjoy your Holidays!
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#86: December 01, 2020, 10:26:29 AM
Wait....  am I officially an Old Timer now?  Class of 2016 baby.
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#87: December 01, 2020, 12:27:45 PM
Me too DF! Yes as class of 2016 I suppose that we both now join the Old Timers! BD 4 years ago this evening for me. Hope you are well, PG x
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#88: December 01, 2020, 02:19:45 PM
Class of 2016 and graduated with honors.  In that time, I've gotten a new job, new home and now a new R with a wonderful,  caring, loving man.  Life got  infinitely better for me the day I decided to blaze my own path far, far away from his nonsense.
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#89: December 01, 2020, 02:45:29 PM
Thanks all, does feel like an old fart now  ;D

Seems like most of us all are doing well, if not better :) I haven't got into any relationships, pretty much traumatised from it all lol
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