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#40: September 08, 2021, 10:20:25 AM
Very saddened to hear of this. I read quite a lot on her site as well as her posts in this community. Though I never interacted with her directly, her words were immensely helpful to me when I was struggling, and I will always be grateful to her. May she rest in peace.
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#41: September 08, 2021, 03:13:20 PM
Oh, such sad news. I read and re-read (and still do) HB's articles. They helped me immensely. I'm very sorry for her family.
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#42: September 28, 2021, 12:14:27 PM
Wow.... I just noticed this today..... how sad.  :'(

I really liked HB, and I didn't know she was so sick. She was very kind to have chatted with me a couple times. Still, I can't claim to "know her" but she sure seemed to know me.

Very young to go, but what an impact to have before going.

I hope her family heals quickly, and depending on how bad the cancer was...... I hope the end was a relief for everyone involved (including her).
Very sad (very sad)....

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#43: September 28, 2021, 08:38:35 PM
I am so saddened to hear this news. The writing of Hearts Blessing got me through some dark days. I hope she was aware of the impact she had on many lives.
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#44: January 13, 2022, 03:37:02 PM
Wow! Decided to read thru this and was shocked to see HB passed. I didn't realize how young she was. She helped me a lot in the beginning of all of this. She had some great writings and some real unusual stuff. I know she helped a lot of people. I hope she is at peace.
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#45: February 07, 2022, 06:35:10 AM
I am so sad to see this.  HB was a wonderful resource and such a kind soul.  And while she never pulled a punch, her intentions were always pure and always meant to build up, not tear down.  One of the first "helpers" (think Mr. Rogers) in the early months of my world falling apart.  Rest in Peace dear HB <3
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#46: June 25, 2024, 11:08:37 PM
Through the Grapevine of Facebook, I found out that a member of HS, UnconditionalLove, has passed on to greater life on June 25th, 2024 after a stay in Hospice for a couple of months. She was from Davenport IA and a Singer & Fluid Artist, enjoyed Songwriting & was a person of great faith. She worked in the medical field for many years.
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#47: June 26, 2024, 05:36:54 AM
Thanks for sharing the news of the passing of UnconditionalLove.....way too young.  :'(
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#48: June 28, 2024, 05:06:38 PM
Oh no.  :'( Thank you for sharing, Ursa.
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#49: June 29, 2024, 05:43:59 PM
So sad to hear. After many years she had finally moved on. Just seems so unfair.
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