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#130: January 14, 2022, 02:14:23 AM
"You can make some of the people happy all of the time,
you can make all of the people happy some of the time,
but you can't make all the people happy all of the time...."

As long as YOU are happy with it, that is what matters... If someone else is not happy, that is their issue to deal with. You didn't get inked to make someone else happy (I hope!) because a tattoo is a rather permanent thing...

That is why I have 3 rules for my tattoos...
1) No names... ever... I have thought about this one re: my kids though
2) Nothing that I would be ashamed for my kids to see
3) NEVER get a Tattoo under the influence...
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Me - 58, xW - 51
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 14, D - 11
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BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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#131: January 17, 2022, 12:23:33 AM
Wish I could give you a hug mate.

I know it feels insurmountable. Know it’s temporary. It WILL get better. It’s just that in the thick of it, that’s really hard to see.

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#132: January 19, 2022, 01:03:32 PM
How are you today, Pac?
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#133: January 19, 2022, 04:29:01 PM
UM You are so  right. The tattoo was for me and me only.
My grandparents have passed away and my sons are and will always be my family so I am not concerned about having their names.
I would not put anyone who isn't blood related as it's not a guaranteed.

Kind18 Thanks for your thoughts.
I have had a few really bad days.
My medication ran out and I started getting some bad memories of my childhood trauma.
I have been continuing with my IC to deal with them,
It triggered some bad stuff and had a discussion with my mother. She says I don't know half of what happened between her and my father.
I know and remember enough to know that I never really dealt with it and she says they are back together because they both changed and she realised they were meant to be together.
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Affair found out April 2021
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Moved out July 8th 2021(Same day our granddaughter was born)

 

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