[MadLuv]

Treasur- that name is so quaint. I can hardly wait to get to where you are. I have seen moments of it, so I know it’s possible. Still more work to do. I hope your are surrounded by all good people when you move.  Goodness is always there as is happiness. It’s good to read this to remind is it’s on the horizon !!

[OffRoad]

So happy for your Appletree Cottage.  I wish you a smooth transition and move.

[Treasur]

A funny thing happened on the way to the forum new house lol.
The diamond fell out of my engagement ring somewhere between here and there or there and here. It was a tension set small diamond and in years of gardening and all kinds of hauling stuff around that had never happened even though I never took it off.
After the divorce, I moved it to my right hand. The first time it came out was when I moved here in 2018. Caught it on a door and it pinged out. I was really distraught but then found it on the floor and got it reset. And then, without my noticing, it happened again yesterday.

Yesterday was another day full of Goodness. Sunshine. Met new neighbours who seemed very nice. And a neighbour cockapoo called Maggie who will doubtless set up a ‘who’s the real diva’ competition with Gracie lol.. New landlords turned up with a bottle of fizz and a housewarming card. And the new house has a really nice feel to it. Plus a chum here hosted me for supper thinking i’d have been too busy to want to cook. All good stuff.
And then I spotted the missing diamond 

What was interesting though was my reaction to it....I was lightly miffed as you would be about any missing diamond in a piece of jewellery but not distressed or distraught. It used to mean so much to me and now, without my being conscious of it, it no longer does although it is irreplaceable of course as the one chosen by my then about to be h in 2003. Isn’t that funny? I guess I have detached more than I noticed from these kinds of things and from what they used to mean to me. I will keep my eye out today in case I see it....although it really is a VERY small diamond lol....but i feel a bit hey ho about it, just another thing to fettle or not at some point when I have head space.

Onwards and upwards. Boxes to pack. Paint being delivered. Change of address stuff to do.
Just thought i’d share this though as an example to newbies that you may not always feel how you feel now. Although to be fair, i’m a shockingly slow learner, so it took me six years or so 

Oh and it was my xh’s birthday on Sunday and I forgot until I realised the date yesterday 
Life moves forward......

PS now isn’t that funny....I just found the diamond at the bottom of my handbag  It had obviously fallen out as I was getting paperwork and new keys in and out of my bag yesterday. What was the chance? Bizarre. Ah well, God/the universe obviously thinks it still belongs with me. I’ll tuck it away for repair when I have time 

[MadLuv]

Wow, on the diamond! You know on your reaction to the diamond I have a little bit of a story like that on my mothers. My D31 went to visit her cousin for her bday. I asked to her get my Moms engagement ring from her BF. She sent a picture of it and all the diamonds were gone. I said, I still want it.

My D31 came home and never gave it to me. Weeks went by and I finally asked. She said, I got drunk and fell in the snow outside and the ring must have came out. We couldn’t find it. So, she just said nothing? I said, what? Why didn’t you tell me. She said, we hoped we could find it. I said well that’s disappointing and that was all I said. She never apologized or anything.

I moved on from it. It is just a object. I would have loved to have it, but it wont change my life. If you don't find your diamond maybe you can replace it with a different stone. Maybe your birth stone. Maybe it’s a sign? I know some are skeptical of signs and I have always hated the “ everything happens for a reason” ( I always had a hard time after my daughters death with that one) but I do think that there is some truth to it.

Good to hear you had had a warm welcome in your new space. 😊

[KeepItTogether]

Diamond lost...found...lost...then found again. All occurring b/c the universe is reminding you that you are detaching in a way and in the time that only you could do. At least that is my take on it anyway.

Your new place sounds wonderful. And I have no doubt you will make it magical for you and Gracie in no time.

[Trustandlove]

I am so happy for your new place, Appletree Cottage sounds just right!

[gman242]

Congrats on the successful move! I'm a slow learner too! 5 years on and things are fine for the first time! 

[FaithWalker]

Looking forward to reading about you and Gracie's new adventures at Appletree Cottage. 

[Treasur]

Well, finally, I am out and in! Fair to say that the moving process was hard work and did not go according to plan lol. Snow, gales and a moving team halved by covid made it all more difficult so my moving ‘day’ ended up being a game of two halves - part one on Thursday followed by part two on Monday. A blown down tree, a couple of small breakages, a chest of drawers that won’t fit up the twisty cottage stairs, a car still in the shop, no broadband....and why is it that the one box you really need is always lurking underneath ten others lol....but also some very welcoming new neighbours, a bunch of daffodils from a random stranger, kind helpful chums and a house that ‘feels’ right. Plus a new garden to play with. I was very impressed and reassured though by how my system coped with it all    such a clear signal of how far I have recovered from how I was a few years ago. Grateful for that.

It’s an interesting process in unpacking to see markers of an old life and to find oneself reflecting without pain on things that might or might not fit a new chapter. I have a ridiculous number of champagne glasses 

So, lots of fettling still to do here. Tbh the new house looks like an old fashioned junk shop right now when you have to clamber over a pile of boxes to find a hidden sofa treasure lol. But it feels like good fettling if that makes sense. Fettling for good purpose. Fettling that is about more than survival. Fun fettling. And Gracie the cat has been surprisingly good....she has commandeered the main bedroom which is a pocket of calm order and likes playing with empty boxes it seems 

[UrsaMajor]

New exercise routine for Gracie?