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My Story standing on my own two feet
OP: December 20, 2015, 09:27:50 PM
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the title is from the song Turning Tables by Adele

"Turning Tables"

Close enough to start a war
All that I have is on the floor
God only knows what we're fighting for
All that I say, you always say more

I can't keep up with your turning tables
Under your thumb I can't breathe

So, I won't let you close enough to hurt me
No, I won't rescue you to just desert me
I can't give you the heart you think you gave me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
To turning tables

Under haunted skies I see you (ooh)
Where love is lost your ghost is found
I braved a hundred storms to leave you
As hard as you try, no, I will never be knocked down, whoa

I can't keep up with your turning tables
Under your thumb I can't breathe

So, I won't let you close enough to hurt me,
No, I won't rescue you to just desert me
I can't give you the heart you think you gave me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
Turning tables

Next time I'll be braver
I'll be my own savior
When the thunder calls for me
Next time I'll be braver
I'll be my own savior
Standing on my own two feet

I won't let you close enough to hurt me,
No, I won't rescue you to just desert me
I can't give you the heart you think you gave me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
To turning tables
Turning tables, yeah
Turning, oh




The idiot married the ow two days ago and they are already talking about annulment. Yeah, full steam ahead on the bad decision train.
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« Last Edit: December 20, 2015, 09:37:11 PM by blackice »
Me 40
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SD 22 D20 S14 S10
bomb drop  october 2013
secret trip with OW June 2014
moved out to live with OW July 2014
left state with ow to go to treatment Nov 2014
Ow gave birth to OC June 2015
h is on probation back here at home
H married ow dec 2015 while still being legally married to me
H returned home 4/17
EA turned PA
still says he loves me but he has to grow as a person
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#1: December 21, 2015, 12:17:34 AM
Oh BI. I think we both knew this would happen. He seems so easily led.

Please don't let this ruin Xmas for you and the kids.
Xxx
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#2: December 21, 2015, 02:14:37 AM
So sorry, BI. I can't believe he actually went through with it. But in a way, I think it's actually a positive step. He's talked about marrying her for so long, now it's done, it didn't work, maybe he can get her out of his system.

And what's the point of marrying someone if you're still married to someone else? What's that about?

Anyway, look after yourself. Xx
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#3: December 21, 2015, 03:02:14 AM
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#4: December 21, 2015, 03:23:52 AM
IMHO The only purpose it serves is to feed his ego..create drama and pain and get attention.

Again it's all about him.

I agree. Please don't allow him to ruin Christmas for you and the kids.

(((HUGS)))
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#5: December 21, 2015, 03:42:57 AM
BI,

I'm so sorry he went that route.  Not surprising though.  Their both so screwed up.  At this point they deserve each other.   :(

How did you find out?  Did he tell you?  Now what will he do about coming back?  If he does where will he think he's going to stay?

Oh man..well BIG HUG to you.  I agree with everyone else, don't let this ruin Christmas for you and your kids.  He's not worth that.


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Re: standing on my own two feet
#6: December 21, 2015, 03:44:05 AM
BTW, LOVE the song!   :)
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#7: December 21, 2015, 08:25:07 AM
Oh he told me. He had no choice cause if he wanted to say anything abouy annulments then he had to tell me he went through with it. Im not surprised he did this either.

Im not letting this ruin anything. Im not even crying over it. Im very detached other than the surge of anger i felt for about 30 minutes blast night.

Woke up to some texts from him. Again same old stuff, shes up to nongood, wanted to let me know she has an instagram again so i can block her and that he cant find it to let me know the name just that he saw she had one and her phone is locked again. I dont care. I just want a name so I can block it. Im tired of her stalking me.
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Me 40
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SD 22 D20 S14 S10
bomb drop  october 2013
secret trip with OW June 2014
moved out to live with OW July 2014
left state with ow to go to treatment Nov 2014
Ow gave birth to OC June 2015
h is on probation back here at home
H married ow dec 2015 while still being legally married to me
H returned home 4/17
EA turned PA
still says he loves me but he has to grow as a person
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#8: December 21, 2015, 08:40:43 AM
BI,

You sound good!!!

I think it just takes time and we get to a point where what they do doesn't effect us anymore.  ;D
We can see the craziness.
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Re: standing on my own two feet
#9: December 21, 2015, 09:15:35 AM
Yeah its obvious the crazy. He is the definition of insanity. Repeating the same actions over and over again and expecting different results. He even said in the morning texts I got that all it ever does is go in circles and nothing changes. So he even sees it yet wont stop. So im done. Moving forward and not caring is the best thing to do.

I am an amazing woman and im loving and loyal and determined and i have goals and i deserve someone who sees this and isnt being and idiot. He and i were a good team, we had a real relationship and worked toward things together and supported each other. He knows what he gave up. Even hes not that far gone. I hope he crashes and burns and takes her with him. Full moon is in a few days. Im sure it will be an event.
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Me 40
H 43
SD 22 D20 S14 S10
bomb drop  october 2013
secret trip with OW June 2014
moved out to live with OW July 2014
left state with ow to go to treatment Nov 2014
Ow gave birth to OC June 2015
h is on probation back here at home
H married ow dec 2015 while still being legally married to me
H returned home 4/17
EA turned PA
still says he loves me but he has to grow as a person
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