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#60: February 02, 2020, 09:49:51 AM
Yes, ow co worker, 16 yrs younger, never been married and no kids. Ex h is with her 24/7 as she now does his hobbies with him aswell xx
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Divorced 3/dec/2019
Together 30yrs
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier. Finances Not yet finalised.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang for 3 yrs now Vanisher but  twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!

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Re: LBS Stages 4
#61: February 02, 2020, 12:00:51 PM
RP -
My H's ow does his hobbies with him as well.
I think that's a pretty normal part of integrating into their lives.
On the other hand, I am out doing new things that we've never done together.
Partly because it hurts to do things alone that we used to do together, but part of it GAL and exploring what I was unable to in the past.

My H posted photos of ow and our boat last summer.
Tore my heart a that was the boat that our family used to use at our lake house.
Just the same-ol for them though. 
Somehow they (MLCer) seems to believe that as long as they're doing it still, nothing changes...

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LBS Stages 4
#62: March 01, 2021, 05:03:34 AM
Yup, OW 15 years younger. 38, never married, no kids, does contract work for him. Not a looker either. In fact, when I met her about two years ago,  (always curious about what she looked like), I immediately sized her up as no threat and never gave her a second thought.

It was only when I checked the cell phone records, that I saw a massive volume of calls. Incidentally, something I had never done in 24 years. It was only after my son told me he was taking Facetime calls with her out on the deck after hours that I checked.

I can’t figure it out though. For nearly six months he has been up in our vacation house (8 hour drive). It seems like an emotional affair. He says they only talk about work and she has a boyfriend. I don’t know if he is living a fantasy life, having a mental break, they have agreed to wait until the SOs are out of the way- since he just lies (used to be honest to a fault), I am only left filling in the blanks.
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D - 23, S - 20
No BD - gradually moved out into our vacation house starting 8.20


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