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Mirror-Work Steps to good mind #2
OP: August 07, 2017, 12:44:59 PM
Steps to good mind #1



"Our outside world is reflection of our inside world."
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Re: Steps to good mind
#1: August 08, 2017, 08:48:44 AM


“I always wonder why birds choose to stay in the same place when they can fly anywhere on the earth, then I ask myself the same question.”
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Re: Steps to good mind
#2: August 08, 2017, 09:08:40 AM
Love the quotes Al!
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Re: Steps to good mind
#3: August 08, 2017, 11:01:40 AM
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Re: Steps to good mind
#5: August 16, 2017, 12:58:28 PM


"Everything you want is on the other side of fear"

To bad is that there is a lot of people are blind on this.
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Re: Steps to good mind
#6: August 24, 2017, 11:17:41 PM
Never regret a single day in Your life !
- Good days give happiness.
- Bad days give experience.
- Worst days give a lesson.
- Best days give memories.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#7: September 14, 2017, 01:58:22 AM
"The first to apologize is the bravest.
The first to forgive is the strongest.
And the first to forget is the happiest."


I am eternally grateful to God because he make me that I can forget bad things, after forgiving. Thank You God.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#9: October 04, 2017, 12:38:30 AM


“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person--without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.”


― Osho
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#10: October 11, 2017, 12:05:03 AM


"Go find yourself first so you can find me."
Rumi
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#11: February 17, 2018, 05:29:20 AM
“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you
don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not
doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or
less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have
problems with our friends or family, we blame the other
person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will
grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive
effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason
and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no
reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you
understand, and you show that you understand, you can
love, and the situation will change”

― Thich Nhat Hanh
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#12: February 17, 2018, 05:43:05 AM


wow if that image doesn't summarise MLC vs MLT I don't know what does.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#13: February 17, 2018, 07:09:01 AM
Hello Al
It's been awhile my friend. Always good too read your stuff.
I just screenshot all your quotes.
All very good my friend
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#14: March 06, 2018, 03:27:53 AM


"Accept what it is. Let go of what was. And have faith what will be."
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#15: March 06, 2018, 03:41:56 AM
LOVE IT, Albatross!
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#16: March 06, 2018, 03:43:08 AM
So True my friend.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#17: March 06, 2018, 04:10:46 AM
Needed that message today  :)
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#18: April 03, 2018, 07:15:41 AM


YOU CAN'T GET LOST IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU'RE GOING.

This is what I found recently on internet and for me have profound meaning... Specially about MLCers. IMHO they never knew who they really are and where they are going. Apparently they cannot be lost because they never knew who they really are and what is purpose of their life...
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#19: April 03, 2018, 02:43:31 PM
Yes! Fully agree....
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#20: April 16, 2018, 11:07:10 AM
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#22: May 28, 2018, 01:02:37 PM
"What is anger ?"

"It is a punishment we gave to our self, for somebody else mistake."
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#23: August 20, 2019, 07:40:18 AM
"I learn that being loved means nothing, and able to love means everything."

Hermann Hesse


I can now see that. If you are able to love, that means you are alive." As much as you able to love that much you alive. Not only other human being, it is about world and life = love. We have to be able to love, nothing else matters really... If someone else love us, feels good and is not up to us is up to them. So love is divine and eternal.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#24: August 22, 2019, 11:36:57 AM
“Christians often ask why God does not speak to them, as he is believed to have done in former days. When I hear such questions, it always makes me think of the rabbi who was asked how it could be that God often showed himself to people in the olden days while nowadays nobody ever sees him. The rabbi replied: "Nowadays there is no longer anybody who can bow low enough."

This answer hits the nail on the head. We are so captivated by and entangled in our subjective consciousness that we have forgotten the age-old fact that God speaks chiefly through dreams and visions. The Buddhist discards the world of unconscious fantasies as useless illusions; the Christian puts his Church and his Bible between himself and his unconscious; and the rational intellectual does not yet know that his consciousness is not his total psyche. This ignorance persists today in spite of the fact that for more than 70 years the unconscious has been a basic scientific concept that is indispensable to any serious psychological investigation.”

― C.G. Jung, Man and His Symbols

Be humble ! It is not all about you. There exist something bigger and greater than you are. Bow, kneel and all of sudden God will speak to you.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#25: August 25, 2019, 11:43:23 AM

Two Diners | Jordan B Peterson

This is so true and hilarious how he express it ! :D
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